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Was I wrong for pulling difficult child out of high school when she was 16?
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 633539" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>When my son is at his worst, I am convinced he doesn't love me. That's my overriding feeling. My son says he loves me every single day. Multiple times a day. I think that we instilled that in him. My husband and I say I love you every time we end a conversation over the phone or even by text or email. I got it in my head at some point that if I were hit by a truck or something, I wanted my last words to my husband and son to be "I love you". So my son does it too. </p><p> </p><p>Talk is cheap. There are times that is my inner thought when my son says, "I love you." My head says, "No. You don't." I understand how empty that makes you feel.</p><p> </p><p>Mine has grown past blaming us for everything. He often shifts the blame on other things - his friends, the world in general - but there are times he admits it's all his fault. Usually that's when we get the "poor pitiful me" stuff. "I'm terrible, I'm horrible, I don't do anything right and I try so hard!" No...he doesn't. </p><p> </p><p>Bottom line, I think, some day, she'll realize what she did and what you did. You'll know, but it won't be because she told you so. You need to get past the need for validation. YOU know the truth. You can't make her see it. It will happen in it's own time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 633539, member: 17309"] When my son is at his worst, I am convinced he doesn't love me. That's my overriding feeling. My son says he loves me every single day. Multiple times a day. I think that we instilled that in him. My husband and I say I love you every time we end a conversation over the phone or even by text or email. I got it in my head at some point that if I were hit by a truck or something, I wanted my last words to my husband and son to be "I love you". So my son does it too. Talk is cheap. There are times that is my inner thought when my son says, "I love you." My head says, "No. You don't." I understand how empty that makes you feel. Mine has grown past blaming us for everything. He often shifts the blame on other things - his friends, the world in general - but there are times he admits it's all his fault. Usually that's when we get the "poor pitiful me" stuff. "I'm terrible, I'm horrible, I don't do anything right and I try so hard!" No...he doesn't. Bottom line, I think, some day, she'll realize what she did and what you did. You'll know, but it won't be because she told you so. You need to get past the need for validation. YOU know the truth. You can't make her see it. It will happen in it's own time. [/QUOTE]
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