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We don't know what to do 22 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 663537" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Quick, I am so sorry to hear about all you are dealing with. </p><p></p><p>I can only tell you what I would do if I were in your situation, I would tell him he has to move out and that you will not be paying for any school or apt. He is not your responsibility and the more you try to "help" him the more you actually hurt him.</p><p>You and your husband tried helping him but it then turned into enabling him.</p><p></p><p>He is being completely disrespectful of you, your husband, your daughter and your home.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have learned is no matter how hard we try to get our adult children to see that the way they are living their life is out of control the more they will dig their heels in. We as parents have NO control over our adult children and the choices they make. We do have control over our own lives.</p><p>You have tried to be an influence to your son and he has made a choice to discount you and live his life in the way he wants. This is when you have to let go.</p><p></p><p>There is an article at the top of the Parent Emeritus page on detachment. I highly suggest you read it.</p><p>You do not deserve to be treated the way he is treating you.</p><p></p><p>I hope you will be able to find some peace.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting and let us know how things are going. We are here for you and we care.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you............................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 663537, member: 18516"] Quick, I am so sorry to hear about all you are dealing with. I can only tell you what I would do if I were in your situation, I would tell him he has to move out and that you will not be paying for any school or apt. He is not your responsibility and the more you try to "help" him the more you actually hurt him. You and your husband tried helping him but it then turned into enabling him. He is being completely disrespectful of you, your husband, your daughter and your home. One thing I have learned is no matter how hard we try to get our adult children to see that the way they are living their life is out of control the more they will dig their heels in. We as parents have NO control over our adult children and the choices they make. We do have control over our own lives. You have tried to be an influence to your son and he has made a choice to discount you and live his life in the way he wants. This is when you have to let go. There is an article at the top of the Parent Emeritus page on detachment. I highly suggest you read it. You do not deserve to be treated the way he is treating you. I hope you will be able to find some peace. Keep posting and let us know how things are going. We are here for you and we care. ((HUGS)) to you............................ [/QUOTE]
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