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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 68492" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>How are all of us fitting in one house? It seems everyone is having the same situation surrounding video games!</p><p></p><p>And our neurologist RECOMMENDED them for his eye/hand coordination (difficult child 1).</p><p></p><p>Here's what helped here:</p><p></p><p>1. invest in 2 cheap-o kitchen timers</p><p></p><p>2. set a time that they can play (I limit mine to 1/2 hour : anything more than that and he gets overstimulated)</p><p></p><p>3. set one timer and leave it in front of him and set the other and keep it in your pocket (so if more time gets added "mysteriously" you're aware of it)</p><p></p><p>4. spell out the rules EXACTLY! DO NOT LEAVE ROOM FOR THE "YOU DIDN'T SAY THAT, YOU SAID....</p><p></p><p>5. your rules need to include: length of time, touching the timer will result in losing the rest of your time, you can break the time up in incriments (say he wants to play one game on the computer and one on his x-box - and you allow 1hr total for all games, he can do 20 mins on 1 and 40 on another), ANY meltdowns will result in losing ALL of the time left over from the second the meltdown starts, if they start to feel frustrated they can turn off the game and give it a shot in a little while (then remind him frustration is that feeling when you're a little bit angry and you get that "icky" feeling in your head and/or stomach), as he shows more patience he can earn extra time over the course of time, ANY cursing results in the game being taken away and you'll make him watch teletubbies for a week (lol - that works here!)</p><p></p><p>What you're trying to do is teach him to identify frustration and the appropriate way to handle it by putting HIM in control. (that's why he has his own timer). Once you've handed him the responsibility, you go from "meanie" to Mommy/coach. It's working around here (darn! I probably just jinxed it!). Right now they're all trying to earn back the computer priviledges by speaking nicely to one another, it's been a week, but we're starting to see some improvement! :smile:</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps!</p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 68492, member: 3814"] How are all of us fitting in one house? It seems everyone is having the same situation surrounding video games! And our neurologist RECOMMENDED them for his eye/hand coordination (difficult child 1). Here's what helped here: 1. invest in 2 cheap-o kitchen timers 2. set a time that they can play (I limit mine to 1/2 hour : anything more than that and he gets overstimulated) 3. set one timer and leave it in front of him and set the other and keep it in your pocket (so if more time gets added "mysteriously" you're aware of it) 4. spell out the rules EXACTLY! DO NOT LEAVE ROOM FOR THE "YOU DIDN'T SAY THAT, YOU SAID.... 5. your rules need to include: length of time, touching the timer will result in losing the rest of your time, you can break the time up in incriments (say he wants to play one game on the computer and one on his x-box - and you allow 1hr total for all games, he can do 20 mins on 1 and 40 on another), ANY meltdowns will result in losing ALL of the time left over from the second the meltdown starts, if they start to feel frustrated they can turn off the game and give it a shot in a little while (then remind him frustration is that feeling when you're a little bit angry and you get that "icky" feeling in your head and/or stomach), as he shows more patience he can earn extra time over the course of time, ANY cursing results in the game being taken away and you'll make him watch teletubbies for a week (lol - that works here!) What you're trying to do is teach him to identify frustration and the appropriate way to handle it by putting HIM in control. (that's why he has his own timer). Once you've handed him the responsibility, you go from "meanie" to Mommy/coach. It's working around here (darn! I probably just jinxed it!). Right now they're all trying to earn back the computer priviledges by speaking nicely to one another, it's been a week, but we're starting to see some improvement! [img]:smile:[/img] Hope this helps! Beth [/QUOTE]
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