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we had our first weekend visit in 5 months......
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<blockquote data-quote="C.J." data-source="post: 70387" data-attributes="member: 1987"><p>You have described what it was like to have N* home at first. First it was a few hours, then all day, then an overnight, and then the entire weekend. I've complained mightily about the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) N* was at, but one of the most beneficial services provided was "Intensive Family Therapy". It was a 12 session program, some done while N* was at Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and some for when she was released at home. N* didn't get it at first that during "family" therapy, she actually had to sit still and be quiet while I talked. I was able to tell her how bad it felt to be, as I perceive it, to be a "parent failure." </p><p></p><p>I've seen her through years and years of counseling, countless IEP meetings, numerous psychological and educational testing/screening (MMPIA, ADHD, anger, behavioral), doctor visits, medical tests, different drug regimines, contact with the police, lawyers, district attorneys, judges, protection from stalking orders.....you name it, and I think I've been through it, or have read and researched it. I told her about being EXHAUSTED. </p><p></p><p>I told her about being disappointed in her choices. I told her that reasonable expectations for a most children include attending school, turning in homework, studying for and passing tests, and one day, graduating from high school. Demanding that a child be admitted to the National Honor Society, a 4.0 GPA, and to be class valedictorian was unreasonable, but when we take our kids to kindergarten for the first time, we're all thinking about a day in the spring, thirteen years later, standing next to a graduate in a cap and gown, holding a diploma. </p><p></p><p>We talked about expectations when she returned home. We've talked about the struggles we've had since she's been home. It's been almost six weeks now that she's been home. We talked about the hesitancy I would feel when I would have to trust her to do or not do something when I wasn't present.</p><p></p><p>If you're able to put something like that into place, where everyone has an opportunity to discuss fears, what makes you apprehensive, that you'll want to take baby steps with him again, I think would be a benefit to all of you.</p><p></p><p>CJ</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C.J., post: 70387, member: 1987"] You have described what it was like to have N* home at first. First it was a few hours, then all day, then an overnight, and then the entire weekend. I've complained mightily about the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) N* was at, but one of the most beneficial services provided was "Intensive Family Therapy". It was a 12 session program, some done while N* was at Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and some for when she was released at home. N* didn't get it at first that during "family" therapy, she actually had to sit still and be quiet while I talked. I was able to tell her how bad it felt to be, as I perceive it, to be a "parent failure." I've seen her through years and years of counseling, countless IEP meetings, numerous psychological and educational testing/screening (MMPIA, ADHD, anger, behavioral), doctor visits, medical tests, different drug regimines, contact with the police, lawyers, district attorneys, judges, protection from stalking orders.....you name it, and I think I've been through it, or have read and researched it. I told her about being EXHAUSTED. I told her about being disappointed in her choices. I told her that reasonable expectations for a most children include attending school, turning in homework, studying for and passing tests, and one day, graduating from high school. Demanding that a child be admitted to the National Honor Society, a 4.0 GPA, and to be class valedictorian was unreasonable, but when we take our kids to kindergarten for the first time, we're all thinking about a day in the spring, thirteen years later, standing next to a graduate in a cap and gown, holding a diploma. We talked about expectations when she returned home. We've talked about the struggles we've had since she's been home. It's been almost six weeks now that she's been home. We talked about the hesitancy I would feel when I would have to trust her to do or not do something when I wasn't present. If you're able to put something like that into place, where everyone has an opportunity to discuss fears, what makes you apprehensive, that you'll want to take baby steps with him again, I think would be a benefit to all of you. CJ [/QUOTE]
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