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We had to throw our adult son out two days ago for stealing again.
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsieshaye" data-source="post: 524001" data-attributes="member: 12928"><p>Gabeach and Collyb - welcome. I asked my son to move out in October, a couple of weeks after he turned 18. Drugs and alcohol, increasingly disrespectful behavior, stealing my laundry money (and probably out of my purse, but I'm kind of disorganized so that's not 100% certain), and aggressively loud posturing when I'd challenge him on his behavior. My personal last straw was when he took something of my late mother's and threw it away/hid it/tried to sell it? in retaliation for me getting rid of his bong when it found its way back into the house after I had told him that one of the conditions of getting to continue to stay in my house past his 18th birthday was getting it out of there. He was "on the street" for a week, during which he said he was sleeping in the park and hadn't eaten anything (found out later he was sleeping in the laundry/storage room of another building in our complex and getting food handouts from some Mormon missionaries who live in that building), and then went to live with his father. He's still there. Has already asked me to come back here, and has been told no as kindly as possible. I'm still in the stage of things where interactions with him are so volatile and fraught with hostility that I don't deal with him except via email, and only selectively. (I actually had a nightmare last night that he and his girlfriend showed up pregnant on my doorstep and asked to move in with me "just for a few weeks" until they both found jobs and a place to live, and I said no. Woke up hyperventilating, and hoping he never puts me in that position, because I'm fairly certain I won't say yes, and I know that will be something he won't forgive for a very long time.) It helps that he is physically under a roof, but I'm not sure at this point that my actions and decisions would be any different if he weren't. I hit my personal limit, and nothing has really changed that for me.</p><p></p><p>Sending you lots of support and warmth. This is hard stuff, and there is no one "right" way to approach it. As others said, it's a winding path, and you pick your way along it the best you can.</p><p></p><p>E.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsieshaye, post: 524001, member: 12928"] Gabeach and Collyb - welcome. I asked my son to move out in October, a couple of weeks after he turned 18. Drugs and alcohol, increasingly disrespectful behavior, stealing my laundry money (and probably out of my purse, but I'm kind of disorganized so that's not 100% certain), and aggressively loud posturing when I'd challenge him on his behavior. My personal last straw was when he took something of my late mother's and threw it away/hid it/tried to sell it? in retaliation for me getting rid of his bong when it found its way back into the house after I had told him that one of the conditions of getting to continue to stay in my house past his 18th birthday was getting it out of there. He was "on the street" for a week, during which he said he was sleeping in the park and hadn't eaten anything (found out later he was sleeping in the laundry/storage room of another building in our complex and getting food handouts from some Mormon missionaries who live in that building), and then went to live with his father. He's still there. Has already asked me to come back here, and has been told no as kindly as possible. I'm still in the stage of things where interactions with him are so volatile and fraught with hostility that I don't deal with him except via email, and only selectively. (I actually had a nightmare last night that he and his girlfriend showed up pregnant on my doorstep and asked to move in with me "just for a few weeks" until they both found jobs and a place to live, and I said no. Woke up hyperventilating, and hoping he never puts me in that position, because I'm fairly certain I won't say yes, and I know that will be something he won't forgive for a very long time.) It helps that he is physically under a roof, but I'm not sure at this point that my actions and decisions would be any different if he weren't. I hit my personal limit, and nothing has really changed that for me. Sending you lots of support and warmth. This is hard stuff, and there is no one "right" way to approach it. As others said, it's a winding path, and you pick your way along it the best you can. E. [/QUOTE]
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