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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 509412" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Lovely, my difficult child has created issues with my own parents as well. </p><p>At what one it was so horrible, I did not know if I was going to see them again...</p><p>I had to do 2 things to make it work: open discolsure by educating them about V's issues. It was not about just tell them the diagnosis, but explaining how it impacts his life and our lives. I still explain to them and I know they don't grasp everything. Not because they are stupid, but simply because they don't live with V on a full time basis.</p><p>The second thing: stand my grounds and make it really clear that I do things a certain for a reason and that is not up for discussion. When I handle a situation they are to back off and not get involved even if they don't understand or don't agree.</p><p>Like I said, it was really hard but I believed it was best for the long term. I still have to remind them but their visits (the last 2 ) have been more pleasant.</p><p>In my case, they visit 2x a year for about 1 month. </p><p>Family situations with a difficult child are never easy. And you need to be realistic: in your case, it seems to be a given that mother in law will talk around. Are you ready to accept that a lot of people will know about your son's diagnosis? Will it bring more positive than negative?</p><p>Only you can make that decision, but your husband needs to be on board with you. You need to be united.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 509412, member: 11847"] Lovely, my difficult child has created issues with my own parents as well. At what one it was so horrible, I did not know if I was going to see them again... I had to do 2 things to make it work: open discolsure by educating them about V's issues. It was not about just tell them the diagnosis, but explaining how it impacts his life and our lives. I still explain to them and I know they don't grasp everything. Not because they are stupid, but simply because they don't live with V on a full time basis. The second thing: stand my grounds and make it really clear that I do things a certain for a reason and that is not up for discussion. When I handle a situation they are to back off and not get involved even if they don't understand or don't agree. Like I said, it was really hard but I believed it was best for the long term. I still have to remind them but their visits (the last 2 ) have been more pleasant. In my case, they visit 2x a year for about 1 month. Family situations with a difficult child are never easy. And you need to be realistic: in your case, it seems to be a given that mother in law will talk around. Are you ready to accept that a lot of people will know about your son's diagnosis? Will it bring more positive than negative? Only you can make that decision, but your husband needs to be on board with you. You need to be united. [/QUOTE]
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