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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 509432" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>From experience, once you talk, it gets worst before it gets better.</p><p>I let my parents see V's true colors. Not in a mean way, but I just let V have some negative behaviors towards my parents without putting myself in the middle to mnimize the impact. I pretended I did not see it (assuming I was a few feet away, etc...). As a parent of a difficult child, I am hyper aware in order to avoid tantrums. Well, when my parents were visiting, I was trying not to be hyper aware. I let them say and do things that I KNEW would trigger V and I let them see the consequences. Once they got their fill and could not deny that something was wrong, I explained to them how to handle certain situations. It is not easy and it is a matter of finding the right balance. </p><p>It is still a learning process for all of us, but I believe it has helped a lot. </p><p>I would advise you have a conversation with mother in law face to face with your husband and without your kids around. A phone conversation might create some distance and it might create some misunderstandings.</p><p>It is hard, but it seems you reached the point where something has to change/happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 509432, member: 11847"] From experience, once you talk, it gets worst before it gets better. I let my parents see V's true colors. Not in a mean way, but I just let V have some negative behaviors towards my parents without putting myself in the middle to mnimize the impact. I pretended I did not see it (assuming I was a few feet away, etc...). As a parent of a difficult child, I am hyper aware in order to avoid tantrums. Well, when my parents were visiting, I was trying not to be hyper aware. I let them say and do things that I KNEW would trigger V and I let them see the consequences. Once they got their fill and could not deny that something was wrong, I explained to them how to handle certain situations. It is not easy and it is a matter of finding the right balance. It is still a learning process for all of us, but I believe it has helped a lot. I would advise you have a conversation with mother in law face to face with your husband and without your kids around. A phone conversation might create some distance and it might create some misunderstandings. It is hard, but it seems you reached the point where something has to change/happen. [/QUOTE]
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