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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 135736"><p>I met this lady who is new to my neighborhood. She has a really nice personality and I am grateful for the new friendship. Her husband is also very nice. They are both professionals. Her husband is currently going through a depression. The reason for this is two fold: 1) He is not adjusting well to the move here and 2) They have two adult difficult children.</p><p> </p><p>They are coming to our home for Easter Dinner...I'm very grateful for this.</p><p> </p><p>Here are my thoughts...that are actually kinda bugging me...not sure what, if anything, would be the "next step" in reference to them.</p><p> </p><p>1) Why is it that I have had such a hard time relating and meeting and becoming good friends with people who don't have difficult children? This is the first person that I have had over for a major holiday meal in a long time. I wonder if I'm avoiding "the regulars" or if they are avoiding me? Has this happened to you?</p><p> </p><p>2) They have been very slow to let go of enabling type behaviors with their adult children. One "child" is well into his 30s. There have been times that I have said my peace with reference to this. In retrospect, I don't think this was appropriate. I wonder what kind of standard/marker I should set for this type of discussion. Should I keep my thoughts to myself? Wait to see if she asks? </p><p> </p><p>3) Generally speaking, I think I should do my best to make the day as enjoyable/festive as possible. They will have their young granddaughter with them. I believe she is in 5th grade. Any ideas on movies I might rent or perhaps card games I could buy, etc.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 135736"] I met this lady who is new to my neighborhood. She has a really nice personality and I am grateful for the new friendship. Her husband is also very nice. They are both professionals. Her husband is currently going through a depression. The reason for this is two fold: 1) He is not adjusting well to the move here and 2) They have two adult difficult children. They are coming to our home for Easter Dinner...I'm very grateful for this. Here are my thoughts...that are actually kinda bugging me...not sure what, if anything, would be the "next step" in reference to them. 1) Why is it that I have had such a hard time relating and meeting and becoming good friends with people who don't have difficult children? This is the first person that I have had over for a major holiday meal in a long time. I wonder if I'm avoiding "the regulars" or if they are avoiding me? Has this happened to you? 2) They have been very slow to let go of enabling type behaviors with their adult children. One "child" is well into his 30s. There have been times that I have said my peace with reference to this. In retrospect, I don't think this was appropriate. I wonder what kind of standard/marker I should set for this type of discussion. Should I keep my thoughts to myself? Wait to see if she asks? 3) Generally speaking, I think I should do my best to make the day as enjoyable/festive as possible. They will have their young granddaughter with them. I believe she is in 5th grade. Any ideas on movies I might rent or perhaps card games I could buy, etc. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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