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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 233380" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Awe, it's so nice to see all you guys! I have been thinking about you, too.</p><p></p><p>Marg, congratulations on the new addition to the family. I'm so excited to hear that. She sounds like she will keep you on your toes! Your son, too!! How is your health? I have wondered how YOU were doing. Hey, you are right, Dylan is very Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). We have a woman that comes to the house, "Mobile Therapy" is what they call it, but she has a Masters Degree, has been working with Autistic children, and young adults (she has an 18 year old, Aspie, just starting to work, non verbal) for many, many years. Her take on Dylan is that he has Aspergers, mild, and Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, clinical - take that for what it says LOL! When you meet him, initially, you see the developmental delays and all that goes along with the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). It's funny, because some that take short periods of time to meet with him (i.e. school evaluations) say "well, he made eye contact with me and played appropriately with peers". Uh, yeah, you spent 2 hours with him when there was no academics and they were having a birthday party LOL! But, when you spend more time with him, you really see the difficulties and challenges he faces. But, the M.T., she spends 3-4 hours here on a Saturday every week. She was the one, originally, to say Aspergers. It's his thinking - more obsessive compulsive, his reasoning, very Aspie. It goes over the typical black and white thinking into another dimension. I think that's what gives her that angle. We took a questionnaire sheet recently (love those questionnaires don't ya? - they're so basic) for Aspergers. There's 25 or 30 questions, and you *must* meet 15 of those to get the diagnosis. Well, Dylan met 14 of them. What do you do with that, right? Some of them, I answered no to because they don't really appear now like they did when he was smaller, but I could have really answered yes to a few more, and he would have gotten that diagnosis. Isn't that interesting how that works? Off a simple questionnaire. The more time that goes by, though - the older he gets, it becomes alot clearer. I still think he has mood issues, he has a very short fuse, easily agitated, very, very, very (did I say very?) hyper/high strung, appearing to be manic. Some say mania. Some say overstimulation. It's to the point here, though, that I'm not worried about it. The doctor opinions don't matter to me anymore, because every one is different. Like I said, it's a guessing game. I used to value the opinion of the psychiatrist. Not so much so anymore. </p><p></p><p>No wedding yet, Sharon. We were going to, last summer, but things here went a little haywire. I had to leave my job in June, lack of day care for Dylan (appropriate! day care), and things were hectic, so we postponed. After 1 bad marriage, though, we're not in a huge rush. We're good where we are. I still can't believe he's stuck around through all the B.S. But, he has. He's a good guy <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p></p><p>WFEN, I'm sorry to hear about difficult child 1. I understand what you're saying. B is the same way. He thinks the world should revolve around him LOL! I think, with hard times and very, very hard consequences, he is coming around, sort of. But, I don't think it'll fully hit him (and maybe not yours either) until he's in his late 20's/early 30's. You know, on his own, his own place, when he has to pay car insurance, rent, heat, bills. When your check is $300 and your bills for the week are $275 and how are you going to eat all week? LOL! These kids, they don't see. It's not just yours. They think life is easy. B, too, is ready to go. I don't see him hanging around here too long. He thinks he's gonna have a nice car, nice "crib" (apartment LOL), and all these nice things. Hm, we'll see. Not working at McDonald's making $8.25 an hour you won't, ha! I'm actually anxious for him to get out. I love him, but I think him going will be a harsh wake up call for him, and I think that's what he'll need to understand and respect what I've done all these years. Hopefully, in 10 years, you and I can sit around and laugh at all this, right? Sounds like easy child is going through typical teen to me. And, she's a girl! Yikes! I give you big hugs just for that, LOL! I have seen some of the girls that have gone to school with B. Egad! Makes me thankful I have all boys. It'll work out in the end, I will say prayers for you.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the welcome back <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>~J</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 233380, member: 2737"] Awe, it's so nice to see all you guys! I have been thinking about you, too. Marg, congratulations on the new addition to the family. I'm so excited to hear that. She sounds like she will keep you on your toes! Your son, too!! How is your health? I have wondered how YOU were doing. Hey, you are right, Dylan is very Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). We have a woman that comes to the house, "Mobile Therapy" is what they call it, but she has a Masters Degree, has been working with Autistic children, and young adults (she has an 18 year old, Aspie, just starting to work, non verbal) for many, many years. Her take on Dylan is that he has Aspergers, mild, and Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, clinical - take that for what it says LOL! When you meet him, initially, you see the developmental delays and all that goes along with the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). It's funny, because some that take short periods of time to meet with him (i.e. school evaluations) say "well, he made eye contact with me and played appropriately with peers". Uh, yeah, you spent 2 hours with him when there was no academics and they were having a birthday party LOL! But, when you spend more time with him, you really see the difficulties and challenges he faces. But, the M.T., she spends 3-4 hours here on a Saturday every week. She was the one, originally, to say Aspergers. It's his thinking - more obsessive compulsive, his reasoning, very Aspie. It goes over the typical black and white thinking into another dimension. I think that's what gives her that angle. We took a questionnaire sheet recently (love those questionnaires don't ya? - they're so basic) for Aspergers. There's 25 or 30 questions, and you *must* meet 15 of those to get the diagnosis. Well, Dylan met 14 of them. What do you do with that, right? Some of them, I answered no to because they don't really appear now like they did when he was smaller, but I could have really answered yes to a few more, and he would have gotten that diagnosis. Isn't that interesting how that works? Off a simple questionnaire. The more time that goes by, though - the older he gets, it becomes alot clearer. I still think he has mood issues, he has a very short fuse, easily agitated, very, very, very (did I say very?) hyper/high strung, appearing to be manic. Some say mania. Some say overstimulation. It's to the point here, though, that I'm not worried about it. The doctor opinions don't matter to me anymore, because every one is different. Like I said, it's a guessing game. I used to value the opinion of the psychiatrist. Not so much so anymore. No wedding yet, Sharon. We were going to, last summer, but things here went a little haywire. I had to leave my job in June, lack of day care for Dylan (appropriate! day care), and things were hectic, so we postponed. After 1 bad marriage, though, we're not in a huge rush. We're good where we are. I still can't believe he's stuck around through all the B.S. But, he has. He's a good guy :) WFEN, I'm sorry to hear about difficult child 1. I understand what you're saying. B is the same way. He thinks the world should revolve around him LOL! I think, with hard times and very, very hard consequences, he is coming around, sort of. But, I don't think it'll fully hit him (and maybe not yours either) until he's in his late 20's/early 30's. You know, on his own, his own place, when he has to pay car insurance, rent, heat, bills. When your check is $300 and your bills for the week are $275 and how are you going to eat all week? LOL! These kids, they don't see. It's not just yours. They think life is easy. B, too, is ready to go. I don't see him hanging around here too long. He thinks he's gonna have a nice car, nice "crib" (apartment LOL), and all these nice things. Hm, we'll see. Not working at McDonald's making $8.25 an hour you won't, ha! I'm actually anxious for him to get out. I love him, but I think him going will be a harsh wake up call for him, and I think that's what he'll need to understand and respect what I've done all these years. Hopefully, in 10 years, you and I can sit around and laugh at all this, right? Sounds like easy child is going through typical teen to me. And, she's a girl! Yikes! I give you big hugs just for that, LOL! I have seen some of the girls that have gone to school with B. Egad! Makes me thankful I have all boys. It'll work out in the end, I will say prayers for you. Thanks for the welcome back :) ~J [/QUOTE]
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