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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 475621" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sorry you're copping this. I do understand your concerns about other authority figures having more apparent control (to difficult child) than you in his life. </p><p></p><p>A suggestion with schedules etc - do not change what you would be doing at that time in that situation. If these people come to your home to see you and difficult child, they MUST see you as functioning normally. It is not normal to down tools and put life on hold in order to have a sit-down meeting. Instead, continue working. Eating. Doing laundry. It shows that YOU are in control, and it also shows that these people have to make accommodations for your life to be as normal as possible. It is possible for them to talk to you while you hang out washing or stir a pot on the stove. Invite them to join you for dinner and talk around the table. Involve difficult child in these tasks so he is also present. For example, get him to stir a pot also, or set the table, or help hang out laundry. If he complains, point out that he needs these skills in order to be able to live independently, and you do not intend to cook for him or wash for him well into adulthood.</p><p></p><p>It also sends a clear message to everybody, that your lives have been disrupted enough, and it's time to get back to whatever normality you can scavenge.</p><p></p><p>I hear your anger. You've been through the mill. Be as snotty as you need to be. I think you need to express it, after all you've endured.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 475621, member: 1991"] Sorry you're copping this. I do understand your concerns about other authority figures having more apparent control (to difficult child) than you in his life. A suggestion with schedules etc - do not change what you would be doing at that time in that situation. If these people come to your home to see you and difficult child, they MUST see you as functioning normally. It is not normal to down tools and put life on hold in order to have a sit-down meeting. Instead, continue working. Eating. Doing laundry. It shows that YOU are in control, and it also shows that these people have to make accommodations for your life to be as normal as possible. It is possible for them to talk to you while you hang out washing or stir a pot on the stove. Invite them to join you for dinner and talk around the table. Involve difficult child in these tasks so he is also present. For example, get him to stir a pot also, or set the table, or help hang out laundry. If he complains, point out that he needs these skills in order to be able to live independently, and you do not intend to cook for him or wash for him well into adulthood. It also sends a clear message to everybody, that your lives have been disrupted enough, and it's time to get back to whatever normality you can scavenge. I hear your anger. You've been through the mill. Be as snotty as you need to be. I think you need to express it, after all you've endured. Marg [/QUOTE]
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