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Well, its finally his day in court
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 651284" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I wasn't being obtuse. I was being passive-aggressive, which is never appropriate so for that I apologize. Now, I'll be direct. You weren't participating on the board when we made this decision, which was <u>very</u> hard for me. I agonized over the right thing to do. In the end I felt helping was the right call at the time. <u>It's done</u>. Criticizing me after the fact for arranging a plea bargain, is not helpful. Nor is going on and on about how you'd do it differently.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Have we don't this? No.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>And neither is mine.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Actually, my son has never once blamed anything on us. He has never said we were bad parents. He has, in fact, taken all the blame. Granted, it doesn't change him, but he does at least acknowledge that he has brought all the problems on himself.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>You don't really know the whole story and I think if you did you might feel differently. Or maybe not. But there is no conning. That indicates we have some illusions about him. We don't. We're sad and hurt and worried, but we know perfectly well what he's done. We put him out in October. He was in a homeless shelter for nearly three months. He had the clothes on his back and a few items that were <em>his</em> that he sold. We don't have family to help him and he doesn't have friends to help him. He's on his own. Other than arranging a plea, the <u>only</u> thing we've done is buy him a few groceries - very few - and co-sign this apartment - <em>when we thought he was going to keep working and pay the rent. </em>I don't see gravy, I see giving him the ability to live and a chance to change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 651284, member: 17309"] I wasn't being obtuse. I was being passive-aggressive, which is never appropriate so for that I apologize. Now, I'll be direct. You weren't participating on the board when we made this decision, which was [U]very[/U] hard for me. I agonized over the right thing to do. In the end I felt helping was the right call at the time. [U]It's done[/U]. Criticizing me after the fact for arranging a plea bargain, is not helpful. Nor is going on and on about how you'd do it differently. Have we don't this? No. And neither is mine. Actually, my son has never once blamed anything on us. He has never said we were bad parents. He has, in fact, taken all the blame. Granted, it doesn't change him, but he does at least acknowledge that he has brought all the problems on himself. You don't really know the whole story and I think if you did you might feel differently. Or maybe not. But there is no conning. That indicates we have some illusions about him. We don't. We're sad and hurt and worried, but we know perfectly well what he's done. We put him out in October. He was in a homeless shelter for nearly three months. He had the clothes on his back and a few items that were [I]his[/I] that he sold. We don't have family to help him and he doesn't have friends to help him. He's on his own. Other than arranging a plea, the [U]only[/U] thing we've done is buy him a few groceries - very few - and co-sign this apartment - [I]when we thought he was going to keep working and pay the rent. [/I]I don't see gravy, I see giving him the ability to live and a chance to change. [/QUOTE]
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