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Well, its finally his day in court
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 651286" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You did nothing wrong.</p><p></p><p>Winning, when we have children who are self-destructing, is about being able to do what needs to be done and being able to look into our own eyes in the mirror if we lose them, if they die or are disfigured or sustain brain damage (and it does happen) because we are doing what needs to be done.</p><p></p><p>You had to try.</p><p></p><p>You think you had an option. You stuck to your guns admirably and well until freezing temps hit. There comes a point when it gets to be about our own humanity. It takes a long time to be able to send someone we love away with nothing in the winter.</p><p></p><p>A long time.</p><p></p><p>Those who say it was easy are not telling the truth.</p><p></p><p>It is like living in Hell, either way.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You did nothing wrong.</p><p></p><p>You did everything right, and it was hard for you. I remember the struggle, the horror of the cold, the incredible relief of knowing he was protected from the elements, the disappointment as he continued doing what he had always done.</p><p></p><p>It is the situation that is bad.</p><p></p><p>Not you, not your son.</p><p></p><p>There is no villain, here.</p><p></p><p>You are learning quickly and well, and the things your son is presenting you with are very hard to see and accept. There is a sense of disbelief. I remember that.</p><p>I still get tripped sometimes, by what has happened to all of us.</p><p></p><p>I am learning to let go of the guilt of it, and some of the horror of the things that have happened.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 651286, member: 17461"] You did nothing wrong. Winning, when we have children who are self-destructing, is about being able to do what needs to be done and being able to look into our own eyes in the mirror if we lose them, if they die or are disfigured or sustain brain damage (and it does happen) because we are doing what needs to be done. You had to try. You think you had an option. You stuck to your guns admirably and well until freezing temps hit. There comes a point when it gets to be about our own humanity. It takes a long time to be able to send someone we love away with nothing in the winter. A long time. Those who say it was easy are not telling the truth. It is like living in Hell, either way. You did nothing wrong. You did everything right, and it was hard for you. I remember the struggle, the horror of the cold, the incredible relief of knowing he was protected from the elements, the disappointment as he continued doing what he had always done. It is the situation that is bad. Not you, not your son. There is no villain, here. You are learning quickly and well, and the things your son is presenting you with are very hard to see and accept. There is a sense of disbelief. I remember that. I still get tripped sometimes, by what has happened to all of us. I am learning to let go of the guilt of it, and some of the horror of the things that have happened. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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