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What a surprise. Father actually did not call.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642217" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It's not easy, especially if it's a child and/or you are a person who cares deeply about what others think of you. If you, say, tell your child to get a job or find another place to live or tell Dad you can't talk to him anymore unless he stops screaming at you, there is much judgment by other people. "ONLY A MONSTER DESERTS HIS FAMILY!" you hear, in more subtle ways. It's like a scarlet letter. It's also nonsense, but some people are sensitive to the opinions of strangers.</p><p></p><p>That's why I don't think it is smart to tell anyone about something that is between you and another person, and I mean ESPECIALLY if you are confiding in either a relative or a mouthy friend. Less is more. Nobody else needs to know, even if they ask about it. There is this forum. That's enough. I personally am fortunate that I never sat around worrying what neighbors thought about me. Most likely they found me nice but distant and maybe the distant thang developed into gossip.</p><p></p><p>Who cares?????</p><p></p><p>With me time made it easier. My mother's disinheritance of me and my siblings not even putting me in the obit and their attitude toward myself as the family blacksheep was an "aha" experience that changed me for good. We all need a kick to get there. Some sad souls never get there. They are the eighty year old mothers still being abused by and supporting their sixty year old "children." I pity them for never having lived. You can't do that and have a life of your own.</p><p></p><p>I don't understand those who feel the need to parent 25, 35, 45, 65 year olds just because they gave birth to them. Maybe I understood it at one time, but that was before I realized that I am a person who is seperate from my children. Seems like ages ago.</p><p></p><p>I hope everyone on this forum learns not to allow anyone to have so much power over them that they do it all their lives and never give themselves, or the other person, a chance at happiness. I believe many people who come to this forum leave because some of us dare to be happy in spite of a struggling, even homeless child.</p><p></p><p>Oh, well. It's sad all the way around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642217, member: 1550"] It's not easy, especially if it's a child and/or you are a person who cares deeply about what others think of you. If you, say, tell your child to get a job or find another place to live or tell Dad you can't talk to him anymore unless he stops screaming at you, there is much judgment by other people. "ONLY A MONSTER DESERTS HIS FAMILY!" you hear, in more subtle ways. It's like a scarlet letter. It's also nonsense, but some people are sensitive to the opinions of strangers. That's why I don't think it is smart to tell anyone about something that is between you and another person, and I mean ESPECIALLY if you are confiding in either a relative or a mouthy friend. Less is more. Nobody else needs to know, even if they ask about it. There is this forum. That's enough. I personally am fortunate that I never sat around worrying what neighbors thought about me. Most likely they found me nice but distant and maybe the distant thang developed into gossip. Who cares????? With me time made it easier. My mother's disinheritance of me and my siblings not even putting me in the obit and their attitude toward myself as the family blacksheep was an "aha" experience that changed me for good. We all need a kick to get there. Some sad souls never get there. They are the eighty year old mothers still being abused by and supporting their sixty year old "children." I pity them for never having lived. You can't do that and have a life of your own. I don't understand those who feel the need to parent 25, 35, 45, 65 year olds just because they gave birth to them. Maybe I understood it at one time, but that was before I realized that I am a person who is seperate from my children. Seems like ages ago. I hope everyone on this forum learns not to allow anyone to have so much power over them that they do it all their lives and never give themselves, or the other person, a chance at happiness. I believe many people who come to this forum leave because some of us dare to be happy in spite of a struggling, even homeless child. Oh, well. It's sad all the way around. [/QUOTE]
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