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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 233073" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">I think if in your heart you know what you're doing with your child and that you're raising your child the best way for him/her, then you need to grow a thicker skin, let the unspoken and spoken recriminations roll off your back. In some cases, I think you need to speak up and let the DR/Therapist/School counselor - or whoever - know how they've insulted you and straighten them out. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">We had a child psychiatrist who was married but childless. She had a lot to say about all the different aspects of raising children. She spoke to me as if I too were only 10 years old. I found it insulting and hurtful and at times really wanted to take her condescending attitude and shove it up her...oops...anyway...</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">She was a good DR for difficult child. I can recognize that now. A little over a year later she had her first baby. I can only hope that she learns better. re." </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">Instead of looking at her patients and parents as 'subjects' in her own personal study, she needed to begin looking at them as people. Just like her and her H, and just like her baby. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">Very often, I think that many of these DR's we all see look at their patients, their parents, and their families as another 'case study' and forget that we're people, we have human feelings and we think and we breathe, eat and sleep our worries just like everyone else. When we go home we're filled with hours of simply getting through another day, whether it's making dinner, doing laundry, reading a story to our kiddos, or sewing a torn jacket. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2f4f4f">Even my niece, who is 28 and a psychologist at Yale and difficult child's cousin, remains very detached when she's discussing anything having to do with mental disorders, her patients or difficult child. I find it so disconcerting that a person who is dealing with people in varying degrees of emotional distress every day can remain so detached like that. The person becomes a patient number, an issue, a disorder and nothing more. Rare is it that you find a DR who will stop and ask the mom/dad, "So, how are you doing in all of this?" </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2f4f4f">After my daughter was sexually assaulted, the counselor she had at the time asked me if I would like to schedule a meeting for myself. I almost came undone, I was so excited and relieved. I took him up on the offer and H and I went - it was wonderful! </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslategray">I have to say, I am so glad we're not involved with Dr's anymore. Well, except the family physician anyway. No more psychiatric doctors - thank God!</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #2f4f4f">Best of luck and many gentle hugs. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 233073, member: 2211"] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]I think if in your heart you know what you're doing with your child and that you're raising your child the best way for him/her, then you need to grow a thicker skin, let the unspoken and spoken recriminations roll off your back. In some cases, I think you need to speak up and let the DR/Therapist/School counselor - or whoever - know how they've insulted you and straighten them out. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]We had a child psychiatrist who was married but childless. She had a lot to say about all the different aspects of raising children. She spoke to me as if I too were only 10 years old. I found it insulting and hurtful and at times really wanted to take her condescending attitude and shove it up her...oops...anyway...[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]She was a good DR for difficult child. I can recognize that now. A little over a year later she had her first baby. I can only hope that she learns better. re." [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]Instead of looking at her patients and parents as 'subjects' in her own personal study, she needed to begin looking at them as people. Just like her and her H, and just like her baby. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]Very often, I think that many of these DR's we all see look at their patients, their parents, and their families as another 'case study' and forget that we're people, we have human feelings and we think and we breathe, eat and sleep our worries just like everyone else. When we go home we're filled with hours of simply getting through another day, whether it's making dinner, doing laundry, reading a story to our kiddos, or sewing a torn jacket. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f]Even my niece, who is 28 and a psychologist at Yale and difficult child's cousin, remains very detached when she's discussing anything having to do with mental disorders, her patients or difficult child. I find it so disconcerting that a person who is dealing with people in varying degrees of emotional distress every day can remain so detached like that. The person becomes a patient number, an issue, a disorder and nothing more. Rare is it that you find a DR who will stop and ask the mom/dad, "So, how are you doing in all of this?" [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f]After my daughter was sexually assaulted, the counselor she had at the time asked me if I would like to schedule a meeting for myself. I almost came undone, I was so excited and relieved. I took him up on the offer and H and I went - it was wonderful! [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslategray]I have to say, I am so glad we're not involved with Dr's anymore. Well, except the family physician anyway. No more psychiatric doctors - thank God![/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#2f4f4f]Best of luck and many gentle hugs. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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