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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 691335" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>We went by the baby and not by the book... even when they became adults. That meant major changes to "our" lives, because we had a kid who could NOT handle being out past bedtime. It was still the right thing to do.</p><p> </p><p>Life is more than school. Outside of SCHOOL, expose them to things that interest them even remotely, and see where it goes. Music. Art. Choir. Band. Drama. The trades. Farming. Individual sports. Volunteering. Whatever else is in your "values" list.</p><p> </p><p>Don't "put" your kid in activities. Be there. Make it something you enjoy together - even if you're just in the fan section. It enables conversations around all sorts of side issues that come up - like racism, bigotry, ego, handling defeat, handling criticism, handling winning, managing pressure...</p><p> </p><p>Spend time, one on one, with each kid as an individual, outside of the home and away from the rest of the family. Get to know them as people. Go to a coffee shop, or ice cream shop, every week or two. And go whether they have been good or not. This is not a reward. This is dedicated alone time as part of their development.</p><p> </p><p>Go to garage sales. Check out thrift stores and antique shops and Mr. Fix-it shops. Buy used cars and used furniture and used clothes. Buy something used that you can't afford to buy new, like a good quality bread machine, or brand-name clothes. Help them understand quality, and value for money. There is a time and place for new - and for used.</p><p> </p><p>Teach them to cook and bake, read recipes, measure, make a half or double recipe. Make things that THEY like. At some point in their life they will live alone and will need it. But its also a rewarding activity. Do it right, and you have something good to enjoy.</p><p> </p><p>Teach them to enjoy and use "down time". What do you do with an "extra" half an hour before leaving for a swimming lesson. Read. Play an instrument. Research a fun project. Knit. Tidy up a bit. It's a learned skill.</p><p> </p><p>Always say good bye. Even if you're just going to the corner store for milk. Life is uncertain, and if something unimaginable were to happen, it's always better if you have touched base before leaving.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 691335, member: 11791"] We went by the baby and not by the book... even when they became adults. That meant major changes to "our" lives, because we had a kid who could NOT handle being out past bedtime. It was still the right thing to do. Life is more than school. Outside of SCHOOL, expose them to things that interest them even remotely, and see where it goes. Music. Art. Choir. Band. Drama. The trades. Farming. Individual sports. Volunteering. Whatever else is in your "values" list. Don't "put" your kid in activities. Be there. Make it something you enjoy together - even if you're just in the fan section. It enables conversations around all sorts of side issues that come up - like racism, bigotry, ego, handling defeat, handling criticism, handling winning, managing pressure... Spend time, one on one, with each kid as an individual, outside of the home and away from the rest of the family. Get to know them as people. Go to a coffee shop, or ice cream shop, every week or two. And go whether they have been good or not. This is not a reward. This is dedicated alone time as part of their development. Go to garage sales. Check out thrift stores and antique shops and Mr. Fix-it shops. Buy used cars and used furniture and used clothes. Buy something used that you can't afford to buy new, like a good quality bread machine, or brand-name clothes. Help them understand quality, and value for money. There is a time and place for new - and for used. Teach them to cook and bake, read recipes, measure, make a half or double recipe. Make things that THEY like. At some point in their life they will live alone and will need it. But its also a rewarding activity. Do it right, and you have something good to enjoy. Teach them to enjoy and use "down time". What do you do with an "extra" half an hour before leaving for a swimming lesson. Read. Play an instrument. Research a fun project. Knit. Tidy up a bit. It's a learned skill. Always say good bye. Even if you're just going to the corner store for milk. Life is uncertain, and if something unimaginable were to happen, it's always better if you have touched base before leaving. [/QUOTE]
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