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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 691359" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Our kids didn't have grandparents so I was big on fun holiday and family traditions. They are adults now and it is obvious to us how much this meant to them. Certain foods, little habits, annual routines.....the use of certain special decorations etc. Our son is doing this in his own new family.</p><p></p><p>We had a housekeeper every other week. I kept a calendar and on the alternate week was "cleaning day." It wasn't exactly the same, but the kids had to clean their rooms and do certain chores before they got their allowance. I tried to teach them we were fortunate to have help every other week, but to not clean up after ourselves would be a sign of ungrateful -ness and laziness.</p><p></p><p>We read a novel together. Don't wish to say which one. It was a big thick book. Every weekend for a long time, for perhaps an hour or so, we each took turns reading a page or two out loud. Eventually the book was done. Satisfying.</p><p></p><p>For a period of time we took the same summer vacation to the same (fun) place. NOT ideal, but because Difficult Child was a pain, this kept her calmer. It ended up being good. At least we got to travel a little. (One year another family and their kids went with us! Tons of fun!)</p><p></p><p>For a period of time when the kids were little, I hired two babysitters so d h and I could have a brief date night. Difficult daughter was too tough on one. Expensive! Worth it and smart. Might have taught them something indirectly.</p><p></p><p>I worked PT and later got a Masters Degree. I did this a little on the late side. I wish I did more of these things. We did stress studying and education which was esp helpful to our son.</p><p></p><p>We did a lot of reading together, esp in the summer. In fact, I would often review skills in the summer so they started school in a good place .</p><p></p><p>I wish we had done more in retrospect. But, we had no family help, I was often sick and in retrospect it is amazing we did all that we did. When Difficult Child came onto the scene it was like a bomb had exploded in our lives.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 691359, member: 4152"] Our kids didn't have grandparents so I was big on fun holiday and family traditions. They are adults now and it is obvious to us how much this meant to them. Certain foods, little habits, annual routines.....the use of certain special decorations etc. Our son is doing this in his own new family. We had a housekeeper every other week. I kept a calendar and on the alternate week was "cleaning day." It wasn't exactly the same, but the kids had to clean their rooms and do certain chores before they got their allowance. I tried to teach them we were fortunate to have help every other week, but to not clean up after ourselves would be a sign of ungrateful -ness and laziness. We read a novel together. Don't wish to say which one. It was a big thick book. Every weekend for a long time, for perhaps an hour or so, we each took turns reading a page or two out loud. Eventually the book was done. Satisfying. For a period of time we took the same summer vacation to the same (fun) place. NOT ideal, but because Difficult Child was a pain, this kept her calmer. It ended up being good. At least we got to travel a little. (One year another family and their kids went with us! Tons of fun!) For a period of time when the kids were little, I hired two babysitters so d h and I could have a brief date night. Difficult daughter was too tough on one. Expensive! Worth it and smart. Might have taught them something indirectly. I worked PT and later got a Masters Degree. I did this a little on the late side. I wish I did more of these things. We did stress studying and education which was esp helpful to our son. We did a lot of reading together, esp in the summer. In fact, I would often review skills in the summer so they started school in a good place . I wish we had done more in retrospect. But, we had no family help, I was often sick and in retrospect it is amazing we did all that we did. When Difficult Child came onto the scene it was like a bomb had exploded in our lives. [/QUOTE]
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