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What can we do about a 19 year old we want out?
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<blockquote data-quote="Smiley" data-source="post: 311620" data-attributes="member: 8193"><p>Hi, I am not a parent but I desperately need help with my living situation. I am a 26 year old female who lives in a house with 6 other family members. They are my mom, grandmother, 2 older cousins, 1 teen brother, and a 19 year old male who has made this house a living hell for the last 12 years. </p><p> </p><p>My grandmother is the owner of our home and guardian to the 19 year old boy that lives in our home. My grandmother is his mother's aunt (if that makes any sense). He came to live with us around the age of 6 or 7 because his mom went to jail and my grandmother did want him to go into foster care. Shortly after, his mother was deported back to our family's home country. As for his father, only God knows where he is. </p><p> </p><p>Instead of being grateful that he has a roof over his head, food to eat, and not living in the drug infested situation he was as a child with his mother.....this boy steals, lies constantly, and does absolutely nothing. He lies so much that if he said the sky was blue we wouldn't believe him. He has no job, his hygiene is disgusting, he recently graduated from high school but is not enrolled in college. I hate the fact that I have to lock my room door ANY TIME I STEP OUTSIDE MY ROOM. It doesn't matter if I'm gone for a second, I must lock my door at all times. We all have to do this. My grandmother locks her room door whenever she leaves the house. She has to carry her purse with her AT ALL TIMES EVEN WHEN SHES IN THE HOUSE AND HE STILL MANAGES TO STEAL HER MONEY! It's gotten to the point where we are going to purchase a lock box in order to keep her money safe. These are things that you shouldn't have to be doing in your own home. </p><p> </p><p>My family is fed up with him and my grandmother constantly yells at him and tells him to get a job or go to college but nothing ever happens. I know she doesn't want to deal with him anymore but she also does not want to kick him out on the street because he will have no where to go. I'm getting so sick of him disrespecting her and everyone else in the house and I feel like he is bringing her closer to her grave. I'm tired of working my *** off just to help pay the bills of the house and basically support him too. No one is doing a **** thing to stop this boy from thinking that he can do whatever he wants.</p><p> </p><p>Can he be legally evicted from the house according to NY state law? Is there a shelter or live in program for evicted teen adults?? I would love to move out of this house myself but I could never leave my grandmother with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smiley, post: 311620, member: 8193"] Hi, I am not a parent but I desperately need help with my living situation. I am a 26 year old female who lives in a house with 6 other family members. They are my mom, grandmother, 2 older cousins, 1 teen brother, and a 19 year old male who has made this house a living hell for the last 12 years. My grandmother is the owner of our home and guardian to the 19 year old boy that lives in our home. My grandmother is his mother's aunt (if that makes any sense). He came to live with us around the age of 6 or 7 because his mom went to jail and my grandmother did want him to go into foster care. Shortly after, his mother was deported back to our family's home country. As for his father, only God knows where he is. Instead of being grateful that he has a roof over his head, food to eat, and not living in the drug infested situation he was as a child with his mother.....this boy steals, lies constantly, and does absolutely nothing. He lies so much that if he said the sky was blue we wouldn't believe him. He has no job, his hygiene is disgusting, he recently graduated from high school but is not enrolled in college. I hate the fact that I have to lock my room door ANY TIME I STEP OUTSIDE MY ROOM. It doesn't matter if I'm gone for a second, I must lock my door at all times. We all have to do this. My grandmother locks her room door whenever she leaves the house. She has to carry her purse with her AT ALL TIMES EVEN WHEN SHES IN THE HOUSE AND HE STILL MANAGES TO STEAL HER MONEY! It's gotten to the point where we are going to purchase a lock box in order to keep her money safe. These are things that you shouldn't have to be doing in your own home. My family is fed up with him and my grandmother constantly yells at him and tells him to get a job or go to college but nothing ever happens. I know she doesn't want to deal with him anymore but she also does not want to kick him out on the street because he will have no where to go. I'm getting so sick of him disrespecting her and everyone else in the house and I feel like he is bringing her closer to her grave. I'm tired of working my *** off just to help pay the bills of the house and basically support him too. No one is doing a **** thing to stop this boy from thinking that he can do whatever he wants. Can he be legally evicted from the house according to NY state law? Is there a shelter or live in program for evicted teen adults?? I would love to move out of this house myself but I could never leave my grandmother with him. [/QUOTE]
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