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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 311926" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>While you are an adult at age 18 in NY your parents are required to provide support through age 21. Between the ages of 16 and 21 you may be considered emancipated if you meet a number of criteria. See the link below for more details. Basically, it looks like she would normally be required to provide support through age 21.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.lawny.org/index.php/family-self-help-140/other-family-law-self-help-75/142-emancipation" target="_blank">http://www.lawny.org/index.php/family-self-help-140/other-family-law-self-help-75/142-emancipation</a></p><p></p><p>This is information about evicting someone who shares your home. If the situation fit she would have to go to court which I doubt she would do.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.lawny.org/index.php/housing-self-help-141/housing-and-eviction-self-help-142/175-evicting-someone-who-shares-your-home" target="_blank">http://www.lawny.org/index.php/housing-self-help-141/housing-and-eviction-self-help-142/175-evicting-someone-who-shares-your-home</a></p><p></p><p>I can think of at least four ways to approach this problem given the legal requirement that she provide support through age 21.</p><p></p><p>1.Report his actions to Adult Protective Services as elder abuse. It may not get you what you want but it may be enough to get your Gma out of being required to provide him with a home at which point an eviction process can be started. I agree that it would be best to clarify whether he might be mentally ill. Given his family hx this is a possibility. So when you report the abuse you could tell them that you suspect that he is mentally ill. Since he's an adult no one can make him get assessed or treated but you can certainly tell APS that you're concerned for your gma's health, safety and financial well-being as long as he's in the house.</p><p></p><p>2. You contact a Domestic Violence program and seek help from them as a victim of domestic violence.</p><p></p><p>3. File police reports every time he steals or threatens you. Call the police when he steals from your grandmother - they are mandated reporters and if they are called often enough or they clearly see there's a problem they will report it as elder abuse. Get all the adults in the house to file police reports. He may get out just from the annoyance of the police reports. Plus he might actually get charged with something and end up in jail or it will provide ammunition for elder abuse charges.</p><p></p><p>4. Get all the family members to sit down with grandma and discuss how to approach the problem. One option would be to change all the locks and not give him a key. He could only come and go when someone is home to let him in. Only buy food that he hates to keep in the house. Don't do anything for him. Do whatever you can think of to make it unpleasant or hard for him to live there. Offer him money if he moves out. The hard part is that he can always come back until he turns 21.</p><p></p><p>5. Get together with other family members and do your best to come up with a way for you to all move out into other living arrangements. If gma won't call the police, report him for abuse or other reasonable measures then you need to find a way to move on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 311926, member: 7948"] While you are an adult at age 18 in NY your parents are required to provide support through age 21. Between the ages of 16 and 21 you may be considered emancipated if you meet a number of criteria. See the link below for more details. Basically, it looks like she would normally be required to provide support through age 21. [url]http://www.lawny.org/index.php/family-self-help-140/other-family-law-self-help-75/142-emancipation[/url] This is information about evicting someone who shares your home. If the situation fit she would have to go to court which I doubt she would do. [url]http://www.lawny.org/index.php/housing-self-help-141/housing-and-eviction-self-help-142/175-evicting-someone-who-shares-your-home[/url] I can think of at least four ways to approach this problem given the legal requirement that she provide support through age 21. 1.Report his actions to Adult Protective Services as elder abuse. It may not get you what you want but it may be enough to get your Gma out of being required to provide him with a home at which point an eviction process can be started. I agree that it would be best to clarify whether he might be mentally ill. Given his family hx this is a possibility. So when you report the abuse you could tell them that you suspect that he is mentally ill. Since he's an adult no one can make him get assessed or treated but you can certainly tell APS that you're concerned for your gma's health, safety and financial well-being as long as he's in the house. 2. You contact a Domestic Violence program and seek help from them as a victim of domestic violence. 3. File police reports every time he steals or threatens you. Call the police when he steals from your grandmother - they are mandated reporters and if they are called often enough or they clearly see there's a problem they will report it as elder abuse. Get all the adults in the house to file police reports. He may get out just from the annoyance of the police reports. Plus he might actually get charged with something and end up in jail or it will provide ammunition for elder abuse charges. 4. Get all the family members to sit down with grandma and discuss how to approach the problem. One option would be to change all the locks and not give him a key. He could only come and go when someone is home to let him in. Only buy food that he hates to keep in the house. Don't do anything for him. Do whatever you can think of to make it unpleasant or hard for him to live there. Offer him money if he moves out. The hard part is that he can always come back until he turns 21. 5. Get together with other family members and do your best to come up with a way for you to all move out into other living arrangements. If gma won't call the police, report him for abuse or other reasonable measures then you need to find a way to move on. [/QUOTE]
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