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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 599825" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>So far... we have but them both under a one week total restriction. They can not leave our home or yard, can not have friends over, can not call friends, can not get on computer/fb, will not be left home alone with out husband or I there. If we both go somewhere they will be with us. If they go to the pool... (not sure if they will get to!) one of us will put on a suit and go with them. At the end of the week, we will add back some things if they have done well. </p><p></p><p>If this had happened last week, we would not have purchased tickets to fly to Seattle to visit their maternal grandparents for the first time. They have actually seen the girls, but they were so young our girls don't remember them. Their older brother in the army will be on leave at that time, and their uncle, who came to the midwest a couple months ago will be there too. We told them that if there is anything like this in the future, they will not go. One of us will stay home with them while the other gets to go with one of us. </p><p></p><p>As Paul Harvey used to say... "now for the rest of the story". The three girls snuck out of our home, leaving the back door unlocked, walked abnout 4 blocks thru the alleys to a convenience store where one kid (age 14) picked them up and drove them several miles to the two older boys home (age 17). While there, the driver got out of the car and smoked a joint. Then the other two boys came and they drove around, until the 14yo did some erratic driving and pulled out in front of a police car. That is when they got caught. The 14yo did have a learners permit, but it had been suspended because of some previous problem. The two 17yo's called their "biomom" instead of their legal adoptive mom, who then came and told the police she was the mom, and those two were released in to her custody. Not sure what happened to the 14yo who supposedly had his cousins vehicle. Oh, there were eggs in the vehicle, but the girls were not aware of them egging any thing. </p><p></p><p>I checked fb pages for the two boys (twins) and both were open to the public. One had posted "Fun while it lasted" and then I noticed that difficult child's friend who had got picked up too had already clicked "like" by 8am this morning! The kid who was driving had commented "Sorry Bro, didn't mean to get pulled over." and a couple more remarks about "yea i r stupid" </p><p></p><p>To take things a bit further, husband and I decided to cancel DirecTV today. Will buy a cheapy antennae and have 3 or 4 channels and will keep Netflix. I am officially the Gestapo mom. But, we are not rubbing their noses in it. We will go to the library and pick up some books and maybe some DVD's for appropriate movies. They will be getting up by 8am each morning. They won't be hanging out in their rooms, unless it is getting spotless. They will be cooking and cleaning. I am tired of providing a level of care that has been so unappreciated for too long.</p><p></p><p>The girlfriend that spent the night has called and wanted to speak to difficult child. Nope. Told her we would get her stuff and put it in a sack on the porch. Don't want them to have a chance to compare stories. I have a feeling we might be hearing from this girls parents. I am afraid that our girls will take the blame for everything... but she was the one calling the boys on her cell phone and arranging it and ours were just as responsible for going along with it all. Not blaming her for it - but I don't want her and her parents to think it was all difficult child's fault either.</p><p></p><p>Will be a long week - but hey, my job just ended yesterday and I decided I wouldn't be looking for one until school starts. Lots of together time. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 599825, member: 12511"] So far... we have but them both under a one week total restriction. They can not leave our home or yard, can not have friends over, can not call friends, can not get on computer/fb, will not be left home alone with out husband or I there. If we both go somewhere they will be with us. If they go to the pool... (not sure if they will get to!) one of us will put on a suit and go with them. At the end of the week, we will add back some things if they have done well. If this had happened last week, we would not have purchased tickets to fly to Seattle to visit their maternal grandparents for the first time. They have actually seen the girls, but they were so young our girls don't remember them. Their older brother in the army will be on leave at that time, and their uncle, who came to the midwest a couple months ago will be there too. We told them that if there is anything like this in the future, they will not go. One of us will stay home with them while the other gets to go with one of us. As Paul Harvey used to say... "now for the rest of the story". The three girls snuck out of our home, leaving the back door unlocked, walked abnout 4 blocks thru the alleys to a convenience store where one kid (age 14) picked them up and drove them several miles to the two older boys home (age 17). While there, the driver got out of the car and smoked a joint. Then the other two boys came and they drove around, until the 14yo did some erratic driving and pulled out in front of a police car. That is when they got caught. The 14yo did have a learners permit, but it had been suspended because of some previous problem. The two 17yo's called their "biomom" instead of their legal adoptive mom, who then came and told the police she was the mom, and those two were released in to her custody. Not sure what happened to the 14yo who supposedly had his cousins vehicle. Oh, there were eggs in the vehicle, but the girls were not aware of them egging any thing. I checked fb pages for the two boys (twins) and both were open to the public. One had posted "Fun while it lasted" and then I noticed that difficult child's friend who had got picked up too had already clicked "like" by 8am this morning! The kid who was driving had commented "Sorry Bro, didn't mean to get pulled over." and a couple more remarks about "yea i r stupid" To take things a bit further, husband and I decided to cancel DirecTV today. Will buy a cheapy antennae and have 3 or 4 channels and will keep Netflix. I am officially the Gestapo mom. But, we are not rubbing their noses in it. We will go to the library and pick up some books and maybe some DVD's for appropriate movies. They will be getting up by 8am each morning. They won't be hanging out in their rooms, unless it is getting spotless. They will be cooking and cleaning. I am tired of providing a level of care that has been so unappreciated for too long. The girlfriend that spent the night has called and wanted to speak to difficult child. Nope. Told her we would get her stuff and put it in a sack on the porch. Don't want them to have a chance to compare stories. I have a feeling we might be hearing from this girls parents. I am afraid that our girls will take the blame for everything... but she was the one calling the boys on her cell phone and arranging it and ours were just as responsible for going along with it all. Not blaming her for it - but I don't want her and her parents to think it was all difficult child's fault either. Will be a long week - but hey, my job just ended yesterday and I decided I wouldn't be looking for one until school starts. Lots of together time. KSM [/QUOTE]
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