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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 128577" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I think that there are 2 keys to giving good advice:</p><p></p><p>The advice giver--needs to be speaking from genuine interest, and not have a hidden agenda. If advice is given for any reason other than a genuine desire to help, then it's not going to be well received. Even if the advice is good, the agenda of the giver will taint it.</p><p></p><p>The advice receiver--needs to have an open mind and be ready to hear the advice, if not necessarily ready to act on it.</p><p></p><p>I have a friend who asks for advice all the time. But, what she really wants is for someone to give her permission to do whatever she has already decided. Rather than saying, <em>I'm thinking of doing X and I would like your opinion</em>, she says, <em>Here's the situation, what do you think? </em>Then if what I think doesn't follow what she has already decided to do, she argues with me. I have stopped giving her advice, because that's not what she's looking for. She's looking for validation and permission. Nothing wrong with either, but it's a different thing.</p><p></p><p>Hope this helps,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 128577, member: 3907"] I think that there are 2 keys to giving good advice: The advice giver--needs to be speaking from genuine interest, and not have a hidden agenda. If advice is given for any reason other than a genuine desire to help, then it's not going to be well received. Even if the advice is good, the agenda of the giver will taint it. The advice receiver--needs to have an open mind and be ready to hear the advice, if not necessarily ready to act on it. I have a friend who asks for advice all the time. But, what she really wants is for someone to give her permission to do whatever she has already decided. Rather than saying, [I]I'm thinking of doing X and I would like your opinion[/I], she says, [I]Here's the situation, what do you think? [/I]Then if what I think doesn't follow what she has already decided to do, she argues with me. I have stopped giving her advice, because that's not what she's looking for. She's looking for validation and permission. Nothing wrong with either, but it's a different thing. Hope this helps, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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