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<blockquote data-quote="change" data-source="post: 165383" data-attributes="member: 4808"><p>Thank y'all. All of your suggestions help and make me feel better about what I've done so far.</p><p> </p><p>No, I don't want to tell my d's business. Unfortunately, we've had to over and over again because she keeps acting out "over the top" like she never has before and her teachers were probing about why the drastic change. My husband's solution to HIS invasion of privacy was to switch jobs! He starts a new place in August. When we go to court again, he will just tell them it was a foster situation if they probe. I'm not willing to switch jobs. My best friends are at the school I work at. When I finally let them in about 1 1/2 months after it happened, they rallied around me and haven't stopped. 4 of them know the full truth. These are 4 that I socialize with, etc. Another 3 are on my work team of 7 and they know and have also been very supportive when I'm absent. 2 more know the full truth and it's only because they noticed I was terribly thin the first couple of months after it happened and knew it must be something with him. He used to be a student at my school and began all of his extreme behaviors there and they witnessed them. My stomach is literally sick when his former teachers somtimes ask "How is ___" or some other teacher that I'm not particularly close to "How are the kids?" Thank God for my friends...especially those 3 teammates, they usually help change the subject. At church, both kids were alter servers and oddly, he did such a wonderful job at it for like 3 straight years that the congregation really noticed his absence. That's why we switched for now. We intend on returning because our church family is good to us, it's just that all but the CCE director had no idea how he was. My daughter is horrified to have to go to the neighborhood middle school next year where everyone will be that was in school with both of them in elementary. Hopefully she can get through it. She better get used to it because for high school she won't have much choice except the neighborhood high school due to her bad grades and conduct. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p>As far as family, we had intended on only saying he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to everyone, but since my brothers know the full truth, I can't be sure who else does. Like I said, the sister-in-laws talk and one brother is difficult child himself and not speaking to me since the incident. He says I'm a bad parent and it's my fault. In fact I'm not sure how much he knows since I didn't tell him anything. He said to me that I was "throwing a child away" and he didn't care if he ever spoke to me again. He avoids me at family gatherings. He's an engineer, but self-entitled and disturbed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="change, post: 165383, member: 4808"] Thank y'all. All of your suggestions help and make me feel better about what I've done so far. No, I don't want to tell my d's business. Unfortunately, we've had to over and over again because she keeps acting out "over the top" like she never has before and her teachers were probing about why the drastic change. My husband's solution to HIS invasion of privacy was to switch jobs! He starts a new place in August. When we go to court again, he will just tell them it was a foster situation if they probe. I'm not willing to switch jobs. My best friends are at the school I work at. When I finally let them in about 1 1/2 months after it happened, they rallied around me and haven't stopped. 4 of them know the full truth. These are 4 that I socialize with, etc. Another 3 are on my work team of 7 and they know and have also been very supportive when I'm absent. 2 more know the full truth and it's only because they noticed I was terribly thin the first couple of months after it happened and knew it must be something with him. He used to be a student at my school and began all of his extreme behaviors there and they witnessed them. My stomach is literally sick when his former teachers somtimes ask "How is ___" or some other teacher that I'm not particularly close to "How are the kids?" Thank God for my friends...especially those 3 teammates, they usually help change the subject. At church, both kids were alter servers and oddly, he did such a wonderful job at it for like 3 straight years that the congregation really noticed his absence. That's why we switched for now. We intend on returning because our church family is good to us, it's just that all but the CCE director had no idea how he was. My daughter is horrified to have to go to the neighborhood middle school next year where everyone will be that was in school with both of them in elementary. Hopefully she can get through it. She better get used to it because for high school she won't have much choice except the neighborhood high school due to her bad grades and conduct. :( As far as family, we had intended on only saying he was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to everyone, but since my brothers know the full truth, I can't be sure who else does. Like I said, the sister-in-laws talk and one brother is difficult child himself and not speaking to me since the incident. He says I'm a bad parent and it's my fault. In fact I'm not sure how much he knows since I didn't tell him anything. He said to me that I was "throwing a child away" and he didn't care if he ever spoke to me again. He avoids me at family gatherings. He's an engineer, but self-entitled and disturbed. [/QUOTE]
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