The obscenities alonr forced me to take a no contact stand with my son for a few days. And they were not even directed at me. I hate the c*** word and had warned him before. He now controls himself when we talk. No swearing. Calm. He is pretty nice to me now.
He isn't as horribly behaved as your son but he is 40 years old and still likes to vent to me which is okay as long as he is civil.
But he can't live with me ever again. Fortunately he has a good job and is not a threat to me or himself. I understand your fear. But if you don't take a stand your son will keep abusing you. How is that good for either of you?
You can't change your son, but you can change how you respond to him and you don't have to house him.when he is not working or helping you and is abusing you.
Nothing changes if we don't change.
Good luck!
