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What Do You Do About the Bad Peers Who Are Instrumental in Your difficult child's Descent?
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<blockquote data-quote="allydem" data-source="post: 457596" data-attributes="member: 12714"><p>I just discovered drug parapharnelia in my son's room. After confronting him, he claimed to have only tried it once, to which my reply was 'yes, and every year I dress up like the Easter bunny and deliver chocolate eggs to children.' When I asked him who he was buying from, he did not respond, but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to guess who the users are of all his friends. I forbade them from coming to my house years ago for destroying my property without so much as an apology let alone an offer to repair damages. Sadly, my son continues to hang with these thugs, and clearly he's extremely loyal to all of them. He's 20 now and there's nothing I can do other than continue to keep them off my property. Unfortunately, it doesn't stop him from using elsewhere. I feel that his choice to continue his friendship with these people stems from extremely low self esteem. He went to a very good high school, in which a high percentage of students were high achievers, yet there's that 1% that scrapes the bottom of the barrel, and he chose to attach himself to that crud. The hammer will come down this weekend as he returns from a work contract in another city. He will not have the opportunity to take off his shoes before he gets escorted out the front door. I wish I can offer you a solution to this dilemma. Is there a way in which these lost souls can increase their self esteem? And if they do, will they have the strength to walk away from those that have been acting as an anvil in their lives? I can't answer that. All I know is that once confronted with this dilemma this weekend he will be given a choice: he can continue his relationship with the dregs of society, or he can repair the extensive damage he's created within the family. Either way, he has to come to that decision on his own. Until then, our texts will consist of superficial chit chat about the weather, and upcoming storms. I wish you the best of luck. I feel your frustration. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allydem, post: 457596, member: 12714"] I just discovered drug parapharnelia in my son's room. After confronting him, he claimed to have only tried it once, to which my reply was 'yes, and every year I dress up like the Easter bunny and deliver chocolate eggs to children.' When I asked him who he was buying from, he did not respond, but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to guess who the users are of all his friends. I forbade them from coming to my house years ago for destroying my property without so much as an apology let alone an offer to repair damages. Sadly, my son continues to hang with these thugs, and clearly he's extremely loyal to all of them. He's 20 now and there's nothing I can do other than continue to keep them off my property. Unfortunately, it doesn't stop him from using elsewhere. I feel that his choice to continue his friendship with these people stems from extremely low self esteem. He went to a very good high school, in which a high percentage of students were high achievers, yet there's that 1% that scrapes the bottom of the barrel, and he chose to attach himself to that crud. The hammer will come down this weekend as he returns from a work contract in another city. He will not have the opportunity to take off his shoes before he gets escorted out the front door. I wish I can offer you a solution to this dilemma. Is there a way in which these lost souls can increase their self esteem? And if they do, will they have the strength to walk away from those that have been acting as an anvil in their lives? I can't answer that. All I know is that once confronted with this dilemma this weekend he will be given a choice: he can continue his relationship with the dregs of society, or he can repair the extensive damage he's created within the family. Either way, he has to come to that decision on his own. Until then, our texts will consist of superficial chit chat about the weather, and upcoming storms. I wish you the best of luck. I feel your frustration. {{{{{hugs}}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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