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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 525795" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>My kids had to adjust to the idea that some things were grownup things and they just did NOT get them until they were grown ups. Sodas esp when they were very little, expensive chocolate given to Mommy as a gift, Anything by ben and jerry (they are happy with the cheap stuff and eat a ton - I eat maybe 1/4 cup at a time and a pint can last 2-3 months for just me), cursing, caffeine, etc.... Those are all things that are 'grown up' thing and if they want them they can become grownups and pay their own way. NOw we have let the younger two have soda more often, and buy their own B&J and expensive chocolate, but if mom buys them or is given them, they stay far away. Why? Penalty is replacing the item times 3. You eat ANY of my B&J ice cream? You buy me 3 pints. No discussion. It is one thing if I OFFER, but taking? Not a happy thing. If you don't buy it I will cheerfully take your videos to the store and sell them to get the $ to buy them.</p><p></p><p>That even motivated Wiz, esp wehn took his fave video games and sold them and then refused to let him buy them back for a few mos. </p><p></p><p>I also encourage dictionary reading. So many lovely words. I did that as a kid - great when bored at school. One teacher tried to give me detention for calling a girl a 'terpsichorean' - my dad laughed his head off at her. It means dancer. She was on the Pom squad, which was the step below cheerleader dance team. The rest of school had a FAR less flattering name for the squad. I had other words but that is the one that I remember because my dad was NOT understanding about detention - ever. I didn't serve the detention - neither of my parents would give permission and they had to have that to make me stay. </p><p></p><p>You can find all kinds of awful sounding words that let you get that emphasis and if you use those with the emphasis of curse words, it will start to work.</p><p></p><p>More importantly,when cursing at a parent there should be some penalty because the lack of respect. I would not curse at my parents now, much less when I was a kid. I was too afraid of what they would do - and they were not abusive. THough mom was incredibly creative (putting tuna juice on my bro's feet and locking the cat in with him while he slept when he refused to go to his room was just one of MANY creative things that taught us to NOT be a pain in her backside!) and we were never sure what she would do to us, she ddn't hurt or abuse us. But we did not get disrespectful to her often. And we regretted it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 525795, member: 1233"] My kids had to adjust to the idea that some things were grownup things and they just did NOT get them until they were grown ups. Sodas esp when they were very little, expensive chocolate given to Mommy as a gift, Anything by ben and jerry (they are happy with the cheap stuff and eat a ton - I eat maybe 1/4 cup at a time and a pint can last 2-3 months for just me), cursing, caffeine, etc.... Those are all things that are 'grown up' thing and if they want them they can become grownups and pay their own way. NOw we have let the younger two have soda more often, and buy their own B&J and expensive chocolate, but if mom buys them or is given them, they stay far away. Why? Penalty is replacing the item times 3. You eat ANY of my B&J ice cream? You buy me 3 pints. No discussion. It is one thing if I OFFER, but taking? Not a happy thing. If you don't buy it I will cheerfully take your videos to the store and sell them to get the $ to buy them. That even motivated Wiz, esp wehn took his fave video games and sold them and then refused to let him buy them back for a few mos. I also encourage dictionary reading. So many lovely words. I did that as a kid - great when bored at school. One teacher tried to give me detention for calling a girl a 'terpsichorean' - my dad laughed his head off at her. It means dancer. She was on the Pom squad, which was the step below cheerleader dance team. The rest of school had a FAR less flattering name for the squad. I had other words but that is the one that I remember because my dad was NOT understanding about detention - ever. I didn't serve the detention - neither of my parents would give permission and they had to have that to make me stay. You can find all kinds of awful sounding words that let you get that emphasis and if you use those with the emphasis of curse words, it will start to work. More importantly,when cursing at a parent there should be some penalty because the lack of respect. I would not curse at my parents now, much less when I was a kid. I was too afraid of what they would do - and they were not abusive. THough mom was incredibly creative (putting tuna juice on my bro's feet and locking the cat in with him while he slept when he refused to go to his room was just one of MANY creative things that taught us to NOT be a pain in her backside!) and we were never sure what she would do to us, she ddn't hurt or abuse us. But we did not get disrespectful to her often. And we regretted it. [/QUOTE]
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