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What do you do with room when difficult child has moved out?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 558971" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Hi BKS, I think transforming that room would be a wonderful and a healing thing for you to do for you. A number of other Mom's have redecorated their difficult child's rooms once they moved on, so they may be weighing in later too. My difficult child has not lived with me for many years (at least full time anyway) so I am not in your shoes. However, over the last 5 or so years, I have had my mother and my granddaughter move in and out and each time I had to rearrange my life and my home to accommodate their needs. At this point, Mom is living with my brother now so I once again have a small available room upstairs. I have been working on getting rid of a lot of accumulated stuff, going through files, closets, etc. and clearing the room out. I just bought one of those chaise lounges, (I have always loved those!) and a set of nesting tables and my plan is to make it a special writing, reading, relaxing, peaceful sanctuary just for me to go to to feel comforted and have my needed alone time. I am so excited about it too! It feels very nurturing and timely now that I have done so much work on detaching from my difficult child, it just feels good to give something to myself. </p><p></p><p>I know you are bereft over your sons departure and doing something physical like cleaning and clearing the room out, perhaps painting it, putting yourself into the task and being creative will be a cathartic experience which will likely be helpful in the detaching and healing and accepting process we all find ourselves in. Go for it. Have fun with it. As you're clearing it out, use it as an exercise to visualize letting go of all the drama, negativity, bad feelings, all of it...........I think you will be pleasantly surprised at how helpful it will be! Let us know what you decide to do and how it turns out. One mom here put up pictures of the room after she transformed it, it was beautiful and fun to see it when it was complete. Go have fun with it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 558971, member: 13542"] Hi BKS, I think transforming that room would be a wonderful and a healing thing for you to do for you. A number of other Mom's have redecorated their difficult child's rooms once they moved on, so they may be weighing in later too. My difficult child has not lived with me for many years (at least full time anyway) so I am not in your shoes. However, over the last 5 or so years, I have had my mother and my granddaughter move in and out and each time I had to rearrange my life and my home to accommodate their needs. At this point, Mom is living with my brother now so I once again have a small available room upstairs. I have been working on getting rid of a lot of accumulated stuff, going through files, closets, etc. and clearing the room out. I just bought one of those chaise lounges, (I have always loved those!) and a set of nesting tables and my plan is to make it a special writing, reading, relaxing, peaceful sanctuary just for me to go to to feel comforted and have my needed alone time. I am so excited about it too! It feels very nurturing and timely now that I have done so much work on detaching from my difficult child, it just feels good to give something to myself. I know you are bereft over your sons departure and doing something physical like cleaning and clearing the room out, perhaps painting it, putting yourself into the task and being creative will be a cathartic experience which will likely be helpful in the detaching and healing and accepting process we all find ourselves in. Go for it. Have fun with it. As you're clearing it out, use it as an exercise to visualize letting go of all the drama, negativity, bad feelings, all of it...........I think you will be pleasantly surprised at how helpful it will be! Let us know what you decide to do and how it turns out. One mom here put up pictures of the room after she transformed it, it was beautiful and fun to see it when it was complete. Go have fun with it! [/QUOTE]
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