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What do you do with room when difficult child has moved out?
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<blockquote data-quote="BKS" data-source="post: 560867" data-attributes="member: 15374"><p>Thanks for everyone's replies. It helped me to have a backbone as I have been gutting my difficult child's room. He had left graffiti about his drug use on the walls and there were two holes he seems to have punched with his fist. The carpet looks ghastly. Toward the end of his staying here, he only used a mattress to sleep on the floor and my husband said that his room truly looked like a drug den. My son has been telling me he doesn't want to speak to me, that he hates me, and told my husband he hoped I would die.......</p><p></p><p>I went in last weekend and began to put up spackling over the holes, etc. I even ordered curtains and am getting ready to paint and pick out carpeting. My son came over Sunday and saw the work and my husband said he just stared at it. difficult child later sent me a note (at 4:30 AM): </p><p></p><p>"<span style="color: #ff0000">Here's my weekly reminder that I hate your guts, keep trying to erase me and see what happens (;</span> "</p><p></p><p>I wrote him back that I loved him, he was always going to be a very important part of my life. I further noted that he might agree that his room needed a fresh coat of paint and new carpeting.</p><p></p><p>My husband saw difficult child's note to me that evening and went ballistic. Son then sent apology saying he was just upset I had previously thrown away a candle that had been a gift from a friend. (Candles are NOT allowed in our house and I chucked it when cleaning out his room after he left.)</p><p></p><p>Thanks again for all of your support.</p><p></p><p>Best,</p><p>BKS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BKS, post: 560867, member: 15374"] Thanks for everyone's replies. It helped me to have a backbone as I have been gutting my difficult child's room. He had left graffiti about his drug use on the walls and there were two holes he seems to have punched with his fist. The carpet looks ghastly. Toward the end of his staying here, he only used a mattress to sleep on the floor and my husband said that his room truly looked like a drug den. My son has been telling me he doesn't want to speak to me, that he hates me, and told my husband he hoped I would die....... I went in last weekend and began to put up spackling over the holes, etc. I even ordered curtains and am getting ready to paint and pick out carpeting. My son came over Sunday and saw the work and my husband said he just stared at it. difficult child later sent me a note (at 4:30 AM): "[COLOR=#ff0000]Here's my weekly reminder that I hate your guts, keep trying to erase me and see what happens (;[/COLOR] " I wrote him back that I loved him, he was always going to be a very important part of my life. I further noted that he might agree that his room needed a fresh coat of paint and new carpeting. My husband saw difficult child's note to me that evening and went ballistic. Son then sent apology saying he was just upset I had previously thrown away a candle that had been a gift from a friend. (Candles are NOT allowed in our house and I chucked it when cleaning out his room after he left.) Thanks again for all of your support. Best, BKS [/QUOTE]
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