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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 385390" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Jen, my thoughts are that you should take some time, document everything you remember, and include things that difficult child remembers separately from YOUR experience and perspective. Create a file in chronological order and then seek an attorney's advice = you can usually get at least one hour of time with an attorney for a consultation for free. Or, you may contact the AMA or a local law school/legal aid society and see if they can't point you to attorneys who help with legal advice in cases such as these. It's important that even if you're not going to do anything legally that you get the correct advice and maintain scrupulous records.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">DO NOT discuss any aspect of this situation via email - no communications whatsoever with those doctors or staff at all. I personally would request a copy of your difficult child's complete medical file from them, but do it in writing in a regular letter form. Hand deliver (and mark it hand delivered) if possible and also send it certified register receipt so they cannot deny that your request. Give them a deadline for your copy, say 15/30 days. Every institution has guidelines for providing copies of files. Without letting on your intent, you can contact the file administration people and find out what theirs is and then follow up with your request. You can cc everyone possible, your Dr, the president/director of the hospital, etc. That way it is well documented that you requested the file and it's date stamped, understand? </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Before discussing this with any news media, I would be more inclined to go to my state's or NJ's state attorney's office and find out from them what the next step would be. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Just throwing out my first thoughts - you have to do what's right for you. Obviously, you can work on this slowly as difficult child improves - I would not throw myself into it as difficult child's welfare is more important right now and the statute of limitations will not run out for at least 2 years (I think that's what it is in NY/CT, but check in NJ). </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Big hugs~ try not to let this eat you alive - you did the best you could with what you knew at that time, and now you know better. You were desperate and trusted the people we're supposed to be able to trust. difficult child will come out the other side and sometimes these types of experiences serve us well later on. When you get to it, use your anger positively. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 385390, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Jen, my thoughts are that you should take some time, document everything you remember, and include things that difficult child remembers separately from YOUR experience and perspective. Create a file in chronological order and then seek an attorney's advice = you can usually get at least one hour of time with an attorney for a consultation for free. Or, you may contact the AMA or a local law school/legal aid society and see if they can't point you to attorneys who help with legal advice in cases such as these. It's important that even if you're not going to do anything legally that you get the correct advice and maintain scrupulous records.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]DO NOT discuss any aspect of this situation via email - no communications whatsoever with those doctors or staff at all. I personally would request a copy of your difficult child's complete medical file from them, but do it in writing in a regular letter form. Hand deliver (and mark it hand delivered) if possible and also send it certified register receipt so they cannot deny that your request. Give them a deadline for your copy, say 15/30 days. Every institution has guidelines for providing copies of files. Without letting on your intent, you can contact the file administration people and find out what theirs is and then follow up with your request. You can cc everyone possible, your Dr, the president/director of the hospital, etc. That way it is well documented that you requested the file and it's date stamped, understand? [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Before discussing this with any news media, I would be more inclined to go to my state's or NJ's state attorney's office and find out from them what the next step would be. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Just throwing out my first thoughts - you have to do what's right for you. Obviously, you can work on this slowly as difficult child improves - I would not throw myself into it as difficult child's welfare is more important right now and the statute of limitations will not run out for at least 2 years (I think that's what it is in NY/CT, but check in NJ). [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Big hugs~ try not to let this eat you alive - you did the best you could with what you knew at that time, and now you know better. You were desperate and trusted the people we're supposed to be able to trust. difficult child will come out the other side and sometimes these types of experiences serve us well later on. When you get to it, use your anger positively. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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