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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 131479" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>One other thing. I've heard several other learned and experienced members here suggest I detach and let wife handle McWeedy. Over the last few weeks, I've tried to do that. I stay out of everything involving the WeedWhacker, other than the really important things - like money, and enforcing certain rules and consequences tied to the "family benefits" he leeches from us. I also occasionally deliver the beatdown when he lies and hurts wife right in front of me, but I've even toned that down because if wife wants to tolerate his deliberate lies to her face, then that's her business. </p><p></p><p>Everything else is on her. I don't ask where he's going, I don't yell at him about school, I don't bang on him for hanging with the Posse, I don't even get on him about being a slob, not going to work, and giving up on school. That's all on wife.</p><p></p><p>Only, wife's response is to simply wring her hands in worry about what antics McW's up to, and then either goes to bed or finds some other way to abandon the situation leaving me to deal with it. Any excuse to "cut and run" will do; going to sleep, taking Dancer to the mall, anything. And then I'm stuck with the mess. Like last night.</p><p></p><p>Don't know if that matters, but I wanted to put it out there. The only way I could detach even more is to simply walk away entirely, but that would give McWeedy free run of the house and our resources with absolutely NO oversight whatsoever. When I tried putting it into wife's hands, the most she's done is send a text message saying "I can't believe you're doing this to me", then it's off into whatever escape pod she's using for the day.</p><p></p><p>I'm trying, folks, really. But the only way I could detach more is to move out. And after a long talk I had with Dancer over the weekend, there's no way I could do that now.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 131479, member: 3579"] One other thing. I've heard several other learned and experienced members here suggest I detach and let wife handle McWeedy. Over the last few weeks, I've tried to do that. I stay out of everything involving the WeedWhacker, other than the really important things - like money, and enforcing certain rules and consequences tied to the "family benefits" he leeches from us. I also occasionally deliver the beatdown when he lies and hurts wife right in front of me, but I've even toned that down because if wife wants to tolerate his deliberate lies to her face, then that's her business. Everything else is on her. I don't ask where he's going, I don't yell at him about school, I don't bang on him for hanging with the Posse, I don't even get on him about being a slob, not going to work, and giving up on school. That's all on wife. Only, wife's response is to simply wring her hands in worry about what antics McW's up to, and then either goes to bed or finds some other way to abandon the situation leaving me to deal with it. Any excuse to "cut and run" will do; going to sleep, taking Dancer to the mall, anything. And then I'm stuck with the mess. Like last night. Don't know if that matters, but I wanted to put it out there. The only way I could detach even more is to simply walk away entirely, but that would give McWeedy free run of the house and our resources with absolutely NO oversight whatsoever. When I tried putting it into wife's hands, the most she's done is send a text message saying "I can't believe you're doing this to me", then it's off into whatever escape pod she's using for the day. I'm trying, folks, really. But the only way I could detach more is to move out. And after a long talk I had with Dancer over the weekend, there's no way I could do that now. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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