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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 131491" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Trinity, thanks for the comments. I'll respond, and everyone feel free to weigh in....</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Tried that. I do take the keys whenever I catch him at home and know there's no approved place for him to be for the rest of the day. But <em>during the day</em> wife weighs in with "<em>how's he supposed to get to school? He has to either work or be in school as a condition for diversion. Taking his car away is just plain stupid. Oh, and if he can't get to work, how's he ever going to pay you back the money he owes?</em>". I suggested the bus. You don't want to know the answer I got back....</p><p></p><p> Tried that too. He takes to banging and ringing the doorbell until somebody comes. The one time I was by myself and wouldn't let him in, he ran off for the rest of the day, didn't go to work, and then blamed <strong>me</strong> to wife. The other time, when I left sleeping bags and a note on the front stoop saying he could sleep in the car that night, wife ran downstairs and let him in.</p><p></p><p> True enough, and I stay out of that, much to the ire of wife who then complains that I "leave her to deal with the hard stuff", which, in translation, means "<em>why don't you just do what I want you to do instead of leaving me to be the bad guy...</em>". I also have to endure rolling eyes, angry conversations and snide comments like "<em>what do you care, you just want to kick him out or get him sent to jail...</em>"<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /></p><p></p><p>I don't mean to be argumentative, but I really am trying. The only reason I let him in last night was because (a) I would catch heck from wife (again) if I didn't, and (b) he was obviously drunk, didn't have his DL, and still had his car key hidden somewhere on him (I couldn't assault him to get it back). Also, wife's CC was still "out there" somewhere, and it's a debit card. I could stop him from using it as a credit card, but can't stop him from draining our account via an ATM until the next day. </p><p></p><p>But, more than anything else, had I turned him out in that condition, and he ended up in jail or dead, I would be single faster than McWeedy can roll a doob.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 131491, member: 3579"] Trinity, thanks for the comments. I'll respond, and everyone feel free to weigh in.... Tried that. I do take the keys whenever I catch him at home and know there's no approved place for him to be for the rest of the day. But [I]during the day[/I] wife weighs in with "[I]how's he supposed to get to school? He has to either work or be in school as a condition for diversion. Taking his car away is just plain stupid. Oh, and if he can't get to work, how's he ever going to pay you back the money he owes?[/I]". I suggested the bus. You don't want to know the answer I got back.... Tried that too. He takes to banging and ringing the doorbell until somebody comes. The one time I was by myself and wouldn't let him in, he ran off for the rest of the day, didn't go to work, and then blamed [B]me[/B] to wife. The other time, when I left sleeping bags and a note on the front stoop saying he could sleep in the car that night, wife ran downstairs and let him in. True enough, and I stay out of that, much to the ire of wife who then complains that I "leave her to deal with the hard stuff", which, in translation, means "[I]why don't you just do what I want you to do instead of leaving me to be the bad guy...[/I]". I also have to endure rolling eyes, angry conversations and snide comments like "[I]what do you care, you just want to kick him out or get him sent to jail...[/I]":2sad: I don't mean to be argumentative, but I really am trying. The only reason I let him in last night was because (a) I would catch heck from wife (again) if I didn't, and (b) he was obviously drunk, didn't have his DL, and still had his car key hidden somewhere on him (I couldn't assault him to get it back). Also, wife's CC was still "out there" somewhere, and it's a debit card. I could stop him from using it as a credit card, but can't stop him from draining our account via an ATM until the next day. But, more than anything else, had I turned him out in that condition, and he ended up in jail or dead, I would be single faster than McWeedy can roll a doob. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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