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What do you think of what the counsellor suggests?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 532751" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>A curfew I do agree to certain degree. To let people you live with know, where you are and if you are spending a night home or not. And yes, it can be reasonable to decide, that no one comes or goes between for example 00-05. But it would be difficult to try to enforce the rules, there the teen is considered adult in responsibilities but has much less freedoms than other adults in the household or almost none at all. To be honest, I think that any kid would see that as parents trying to smoke him out without having to take a responsibility of kicking him out themselves. And I could certainly understand that point of view. </p><p></p><p>If you want to parent the kid, you can not really treat them as adults at the same time. You have to choose. Either you are parenting a child or not, but you can not expect other person to behave like an adult and still accept being parented like a child. </p><p></p><p>And being softie I am, I also agree with confuzzled about not setting things in stone and deciding too harshly about second chances when the kid is still so young. Especially boys are still very, very immature at 16, they grow up a lot in years to come and deciding something for the future just because right now the kid is being immature brat. Three years from now situation may be totally different.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 532751, member: 14557"] A curfew I do agree to certain degree. To let people you live with know, where you are and if you are spending a night home or not. And yes, it can be reasonable to decide, that no one comes or goes between for example 00-05. But it would be difficult to try to enforce the rules, there the teen is considered adult in responsibilities but has much less freedoms than other adults in the household or almost none at all. To be honest, I think that any kid would see that as parents trying to smoke him out without having to take a responsibility of kicking him out themselves. And I could certainly understand that point of view. If you want to parent the kid, you can not really treat them as adults at the same time. You have to choose. Either you are parenting a child or not, but you can not expect other person to behave like an adult and still accept being parented like a child. And being softie I am, I also agree with confuzzled about not setting things in stone and deciding too harshly about second chances when the kid is still so young. Especially boys are still very, very immature at 16, they grow up a lot in years to come and deciding something for the future just because right now the kid is being immature brat. Three years from now situation may be totally different. [/QUOTE]
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