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<blockquote data-quote="Blondiesbf" data-source="post: 457883" data-attributes="member: 12548"><p>I think the whole reward business is where hubby and I made our mistake! He grew up relatively poor so for him, giving for doing felt good for him. What it did is create a sense of entitlement or our boys. Not good. Because my difficult child totally feels entitled and even out on his own, is still reaching to hubby for help...against my wishes. Getting my 21-yr-old, who still lives with us, to do anything around here to help us, is like pulling teeth! We always have to ask...he never offers. Rarely does he do what we ask. However, he is staying because he is back in school full time, works at a menial job full time, working to get out of debt, and is relatively a good kid. I just need to figure out how to get him to be more appreciative...and I will, darn it!!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, (eating my own words here) if your son doesn't want to give to get, then he doesn't get. Period. Nothing you did wrong. Nothing at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blondiesbf, post: 457883, member: 12548"] I think the whole reward business is where hubby and I made our mistake! He grew up relatively poor so for him, giving for doing felt good for him. What it did is create a sense of entitlement or our boys. Not good. Because my difficult child totally feels entitled and even out on his own, is still reaching to hubby for help...against my wishes. Getting my 21-yr-old, who still lives with us, to do anything around here to help us, is like pulling teeth! We always have to ask...he never offers. Rarely does he do what we ask. However, he is staying because he is back in school full time, works at a menial job full time, working to get out of debt, and is relatively a good kid. I just need to figure out how to get him to be more appreciative...and I will, darn it!! Anyway, (eating my own words here) if your son doesn't want to give to get, then he doesn't get. Period. Nothing you did wrong. Nothing at all. [/QUOTE]
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