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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 457936" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Under NO terms should your son drive. PERIOD. Not just because he doesn't like to follow the rules and because it is hugely expensive to have a teen driver - not just increase in insurance and gas but also all the independence that your son has more than PROVED that he cannot and will not handle appropriately. </p><p></p><p>He clearly NEEDS glasses or contacts and refuses to wear them. What makes you think getting his license will change that? Are you truly willing to risk not just his life but the lives of everyone else even NEAR where he is driving on the "maybe" that he will wear his glasses/contacts while driving? I am NOT the type to file lawsuits, but if I learned that a parent KNEW their child refused to wear glasses and still let that child drive a car, I would file a lawsuit for every single penny they ever hoped to have/earn. I am NOT joking here. I have terrible eyesight as does everyone in my family, and this is a make or break deal.</p><p></p><p>Do not discuss these "deals" with your son. He is simply trying to get what he wants with-o doing what he needs to do to have them. Sorry, but if he wants his room painted, he shoudl move out, pay his own bills with money he earned from a job and then buy his own gallon or two of paint and paint supplies and paint the room himself. As far as cleaning his room, well, if it is a big deal to you then tell him you are cutting off his phone and internet or whatever he values until it is clean - and give him a list of the steps to get it clean.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child is manipulating you and trying to justify his own bad behavior by blaming you. in my opinion you need to stop listening and/or responding when he wants to geti nto this koi. Tell him to stop whining, the deals are off because you know he does not EVER intend to live up to his side and you are done talking. If life is so awful, maybe he should get a J-O-B and pay his own way in the world. </p><p></p><p>Sorry if this sounds harsh, but the driving with no glasses/contacts is a HUGE thing to me. Even if he did wear glasses religiously, he still is too impulsive to be a safe driver plus he has NO regard for rules and so you can guaran-dang-tee that the rules of safe driving would be a challenge - a challenge to see how many of them he can break and how often he can break them. The rest of us don't deserve to be put into danger because he feels entitled to drive unsafely and iwth no regard to the safety of others.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 457936, member: 1233"] Under NO terms should your son drive. PERIOD. Not just because he doesn't like to follow the rules and because it is hugely expensive to have a teen driver - not just increase in insurance and gas but also all the independence that your son has more than PROVED that he cannot and will not handle appropriately. He clearly NEEDS glasses or contacts and refuses to wear them. What makes you think getting his license will change that? Are you truly willing to risk not just his life but the lives of everyone else even NEAR where he is driving on the "maybe" that he will wear his glasses/contacts while driving? I am NOT the type to file lawsuits, but if I learned that a parent KNEW their child refused to wear glasses and still let that child drive a car, I would file a lawsuit for every single penny they ever hoped to have/earn. I am NOT joking here. I have terrible eyesight as does everyone in my family, and this is a make or break deal. Do not discuss these "deals" with your son. He is simply trying to get what he wants with-o doing what he needs to do to have them. Sorry, but if he wants his room painted, he shoudl move out, pay his own bills with money he earned from a job and then buy his own gallon or two of paint and paint supplies and paint the room himself. As far as cleaning his room, well, if it is a big deal to you then tell him you are cutting off his phone and internet or whatever he values until it is clean - and give him a list of the steps to get it clean. Your difficult child is manipulating you and trying to justify his own bad behavior by blaming you. in my opinion you need to stop listening and/or responding when he wants to geti nto this koi. Tell him to stop whining, the deals are off because you know he does not EVER intend to live up to his side and you are done talking. If life is so awful, maybe he should get a J-O-B and pay his own way in the world. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but the driving with no glasses/contacts is a HUGE thing to me. Even if he did wear glasses religiously, he still is too impulsive to be a safe driver plus he has NO regard for rules and so you can guaran-dang-tee that the rules of safe driving would be a challenge - a challenge to see how many of them he can break and how often he can break them. The rest of us don't deserve to be put into danger because he feels entitled to drive unsafely and iwth no regard to the safety of others. [/QUOTE]
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