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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 597418" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>"I don't feel any of the resentments I felt last year when I was paying for everything, not only financially, but emotionally."</p><p></p><p>"we learn to distinguish our own 'stuff' from theirs"</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Recovering. Sharing as you do with all of us can't be easy for you. But when I listen to the twists and hurts your own journey has taken, I understand that this is a process. It is not endless, it's not an exercise in futility, it's not just me, whining (or raging) away about what happened and how I feel about that.</p><p></p><p>"the difference between love and codependency is with love there is no resentment"</p><p></p><p>"we all find ways to survive the trauma of our children's choices"</p><p></p><p>O.K. I think I'm standing, again.</p><p></p><p>Here is a funny thing that happened, last night. I had posted about feeling caught in a high wind, Wizard-of-Oz like. Well, last night, I was re-reading an old Bradshaw book I had lying around here. (Family Secrets) In it, he uses the Wizard of Oz analogy, too. It was kind of a quirky thing, to read that last night. But I was thinking about it just now. How we all wish we'd been smarter, had more courage, been more kind. How hard we all try to be more and better and stronger than we knew we could be.</p><p></p><p>About how hard we work to ferret out, name, and incorporate these feelings.</p><p></p><p>That's all I know, for today.</p><p></p><p>I'm feeling better, though.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 597418, member: 1721"] "I don't feel any of the resentments I felt last year when I was paying for everything, not only financially, but emotionally." "we learn to distinguish our own 'stuff' from theirs" Thank you, Recovering. Sharing as you do with all of us can't be easy for you. But when I listen to the twists and hurts your own journey has taken, I understand that this is a process. It is not endless, it's not an exercise in futility, it's not just me, whining (or raging) away about what happened and how I feel about that. "the difference between love and codependency is with love there is no resentment" "we all find ways to survive the trauma of our children's choices" O.K. I think I'm standing, again. Here is a funny thing that happened, last night. I had posted about feeling caught in a high wind, Wizard-of-Oz like. Well, last night, I was re-reading an old Bradshaw book I had lying around here. (Family Secrets) In it, he uses the Wizard of Oz analogy, too. It was kind of a quirky thing, to read that last night. But I was thinking about it just now. How we all wish we'd been smarter, had more courage, been more kind. How hard we all try to be more and better and stronger than we knew we could be. About how hard we work to ferret out, name, and incorporate these feelings. That's all I know, for today. I'm feeling better, though. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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