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What does detachment look like to you?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 613310" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Witz, one of my many therapists once told me that "when you engage with crazy people, you yourself become crazy." She then went on to show me physically by pretending she had a sword in her hand and she mimicked the act of attempting to slice through an opponent.............she said if you respond the sword gets stuck and you are now engaged in this combat............ however, if you are neutral, standing in your truth, the sword goes through smoothly, each slash going through as if you are invisible, the neutrality keeps you safe, there is nothing to stop the sword..........you are NOT engaged.......... it ends.........</p><p></p><p>That comment and that imagery made a lot of sense to me. It made me recognize that I did not want to engage with crazy people anymore, it's a toxic environment and whatever I had to learn to keep myself out of it, was what became my intention. Certainly life pulls us in to these creepy places at times, but how I respond to them is under my control and I practice being what that therapist called a "Samurai", someone who does not engage in unnecessary battles they cannot win. </p><p></p><p>It's a practice, something I aspire to pull off, sometimes I make it, sometimes I don't, but it makes more sense to me to be that Samurai.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 613310, member: 13542"] Witz, one of my many therapists once told me that "when you engage with crazy people, you yourself become crazy." She then went on to show me physically by pretending she had a sword in her hand and she mimicked the act of attempting to slice through an opponent.............she said if you respond the sword gets stuck and you are now engaged in this combat............ however, if you are neutral, standing in your truth, the sword goes through smoothly, each slash going through as if you are invisible, the neutrality keeps you safe, there is nothing to stop the sword..........you are NOT engaged.......... it ends......... That comment and that imagery made a lot of sense to me. It made me recognize that I did not want to engage with crazy people anymore, it's a toxic environment and whatever I had to learn to keep myself out of it, was what became my intention. Certainly life pulls us in to these creepy places at times, but how I respond to them is under my control and I practice being what that therapist called a "Samurai", someone who does not engage in unnecessary battles they cannot win. It's a practice, something I aspire to pull off, sometimes I make it, sometimes I don't, but it makes more sense to me to be that Samurai. [/QUOTE]
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