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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 613710" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Actually, I don't think it's one bit funny that I have allowed myself to be made to feel that my reactions are over-reactions. I really am so horrified, so totally offended at what difficult child daughter has done and is doing that it makes me sick to my stomach. But...it seems wrong to feel that when I should be being supportive, so I don't.</p><p></p><p>In any event, being supportive hasn't worked. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>On the contribution part? The answer to having made such an abysmal contribution as parents is to pour all this effort into creating and nurturing something else.</p><p></p><p>Like Scott G posted: No expectations that the kids are going to change, and no judgments against them.</p><p></p><p>But here's the thing: I don't know anyone like that AND I DON'T WANT TO. The only reason I talk to my kids, the only reason I keep trying to make this something better is because they ARE my kids.</p><p></p><p>I saw a panhandler the other day. Whereas MWM is so kind and gentle with them? I felt like smacking him one and asking him what his mother thought of what he was doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 613710, member: 1721"] Actually, I don't think it's one bit funny that I have allowed myself to be made to feel that my reactions are over-reactions. I really am so horrified, so totally offended at what difficult child daughter has done and is doing that it makes me sick to my stomach. But...it seems wrong to feel that when I should be being supportive, so I don't. In any event, being supportive hasn't worked. Cedar On the contribution part? The answer to having made such an abysmal contribution as parents is to pour all this effort into creating and nurturing something else. Like Scott G posted: No expectations that the kids are going to change, and no judgments against them. But here's the thing: I don't know anyone like that AND I DON'T WANT TO. The only reason I talk to my kids, the only reason I keep trying to make this something better is because they ARE my kids. I saw a panhandler the other day. Whereas MWM is so kind and gentle with them? I felt like smacking him one and asking him what his mother thought of what he was doing. [/QUOTE]
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