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What does detachment look like to you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 617975" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Yikes, such a long thread! I joined late and want to get back to where it started, if that is OK...</p><p>Detachment feels like no relationship. But it leaves space for real life. I just, some how, let go of my difficult child. I feel like I have only 3 children, not 4. I don't mention him to anyone, nor do I feel like I'm harboring a dark secret. I just...let him go. No relationship. There wasn't anyone there to have a relationship with anyway...it was all so slippery, full of lies and manipulation and living for the second...once I let go of trying to fix him, which never worked anyway, and got better at letting go of the guilt and despair, once I really had exhausted all options...I just....let him go. He floated away. I lost my son. And it is going to have to be OK. Like the comment above, I still have hope that he will pull it together, but my life, my family, our wholeness and happiness, doesn't depend on it anymore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 617975, member: 17269"] Yikes, such a long thread! I joined late and want to get back to where it started, if that is OK... Detachment feels like no relationship. But it leaves space for real life. I just, some how, let go of my difficult child. I feel like I have only 3 children, not 4. I don't mention him to anyone, nor do I feel like I'm harboring a dark secret. I just...let him go. No relationship. There wasn't anyone there to have a relationship with anyway...it was all so slippery, full of lies and manipulation and living for the second...once I let go of trying to fix him, which never worked anyway, and got better at letting go of the guilt and despair, once I really had exhausted all options...I just....let him go. He floated away. I lost my son. And it is going to have to be OK. Like the comment above, I still have hope that he will pull it together, but my life, my family, our wholeness and happiness, doesn't depend on it anymore. [/QUOTE]
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