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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 408966" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Considering... I am blessed, really.</p><p> </p><p>My parents are there when I need to talk. In fact I'll call my Mom (or Dad, too) every so often and just announce that I need to vent. They listen. Occasionally, they'll drive up and watch the kids when we need them, or take one or both of the kids for a day. And for the most part, both kids are angels with them.</p><p> </p><p>Financially, my parents are wonderful. On and on with the lawyer, and there is a trust set up for mh issues for the kids. This came from Mom's parents when they passed, and I am grateful for it.</p><p> </p><p>Then there are the in-laws. Oh, they're willing to help. But father in law, God love him, knows <em>everything </em>about <em>everything</em> and will talk to you for hours and hours. Lecture, mostly. It's awful. Interestingly, he will talk to me, but he doesn't lecture. At Christmas, I finally had to pull my Dad and husband aside and say, look, you guys have GOT to quit paying attention to him, it's encouraging him, this is CHRISTMAS, for the FAMILY. father in law needs to be the center of attention, at all times. But if we need someone to be there for BM picking up Jett - he will come.</p><p> </p><p>We used to have Jett go to mother in law's two days a week after school. Well... It was a pain having to pick him up, because I was expected to sit and talk to her. And mother in law had this <em>thing</em> about putting people down. She would tell me how lazy husband was, and how he was lucky to have me to do everything for him, and how it was father in law's fault, yadda yadda yadda. And she would say horrible things about BM <em>in front of Jett</em>. And then I found out she was badmouthing me to husband - huh? The final straw was one day when Onyxx went over there. mother in law called her a sl** (due to clothing) and a druggie, criticized her all around, and then started in on how horrible of parents me and husband were. Now, normally I wouldn't believe Onyxx on this - <em>but she recorded it on her cell phone</em>. husband and I have been rather cool toward mother in law since then. As Marg said, sometimes family support is not supportive.</p><p> </p><p>sister in law - bless her heart, she has 2 difficult children of her own - and she lives with father in law. She is his clear favorite, so it's a tad easier for her to deal with him. But she does help when she can. And her son (who is 20) is really a easy child/difficult child - no ambition, no nothing (no job, nada), but a good kid otherwise and loves to hang out with Onyxx and Jett and husband.</p><p> </p><p>I also have a couple of really good friends and this board... All are family of one sort or another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 408966, member: 6705"] Considering... I am blessed, really. My parents are there when I need to talk. In fact I'll call my Mom (or Dad, too) every so often and just announce that I need to vent. They listen. Occasionally, they'll drive up and watch the kids when we need them, or take one or both of the kids for a day. And for the most part, both kids are angels with them. Financially, my parents are wonderful. On and on with the lawyer, and there is a trust set up for mh issues for the kids. This came from Mom's parents when they passed, and I am grateful for it. Then there are the in-laws. Oh, they're willing to help. But father in law, God love him, knows [I]everything [/I]about [I]everything[/I] and will talk to you for hours and hours. Lecture, mostly. It's awful. Interestingly, he will talk to me, but he doesn't lecture. At Christmas, I finally had to pull my Dad and husband aside and say, look, you guys have GOT to quit paying attention to him, it's encouraging him, this is CHRISTMAS, for the FAMILY. father in law needs to be the center of attention, at all times. But if we need someone to be there for BM picking up Jett - he will come. We used to have Jett go to mother in law's two days a week after school. Well... It was a pain having to pick him up, because I was expected to sit and talk to her. And mother in law had this [I]thing[/I] about putting people down. She would tell me how lazy husband was, and how he was lucky to have me to do everything for him, and how it was father in law's fault, yadda yadda yadda. And she would say horrible things about BM [I]in front of Jett[/I]. And then I found out she was badmouthing me to husband - huh? The final straw was one day when Onyxx went over there. mother in law called her a sl** (due to clothing) and a druggie, criticized her all around, and then started in on how horrible of parents me and husband were. Now, normally I wouldn't believe Onyxx on this - [I]but she recorded it on her cell phone[/I]. husband and I have been rather cool toward mother in law since then. As Marg said, sometimes family support is not supportive. sister in law - bless her heart, she has 2 difficult children of her own - and she lives with father in law. She is his clear favorite, so it's a tad easier for her to deal with him. But she does help when she can. And her son (who is 20) is really a easy child/difficult child - no ambition, no nothing (no job, nada), but a good kid otherwise and loves to hang out with Onyxx and Jett and husband. I also have a couple of really good friends and this board... All are family of one sort or another. [/QUOTE]
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