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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 423150" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>What flips their switch - the not so funny version - as I remember it on various days and no I'm not kidding. </p><p> </p><p>From morning to night: </p><p> </p><p>The alarm clock</p><p>The snooze button</p><p>The light in the hall </p><p>SHUT THE DOOR </p><p>Leave my door OPEN</p><p>Shut my door</p><p>The alarm again - projectile style</p><p>The smell of oatmeal</p><p>The smell of coffee</p><p>The sound of the shower</p><p>The sound of the hairdryer</p><p>His clothes, his lack of clothes, his choice of clothes</p><p>Clothes tags, clothes fit, not fit, pants, shirts, I'm not wearing this! </p><p>Socks OMG socks (gets that honest: Sock snob) The ridge on the socks) The elastic</p><p>Shoes - they're too tight, they're wet, they're gay, those pants are gay, they're too short, I'm not wearing this! </p><p>I'm not going!</p><p>Goes back to bed</p><p>Alarm goes off again on the opposite side of the room.</p><p>Gets up, STOMPS on alarm, alarm # 4 for the month dies a slow, tragic, sickly sounding death. </p><p>BREAKFAST IS READY. </p><p>OMG I HATE Fing oatmeal. YOU KNOW THAT and I have NOTHING TO WEAR. </p><p>Have some Cheerios. How about an egg? </p><p>Dippy Egg? With Toast? - Sure. </p><p>Okay. </p><p>Goes back to bed. </p><p>Breakfast! </p><p>Bring it to me. </p><p>COME AND GET IT! </p><p>Gets up, in shorts - eats, puts on t shirt, </p><p>Got your homework? </p><p>Didn't have any - Gotta ask. (he never had any) </p><p>Okay SHOES we gotta go. </p><p>I'm not going</p><p>Yup - Gotta go. </p><p>My shoes are all wet. </p><p>And they'll be wet all day - LETS GO. </p><p>We can dry them? </p><p>NO. 5,4,3,2,1 - In THE CAR</p><p>I HATE YOU. </p><p>I love you</p><p>I hate school</p><p>I LOVE SCHOOL</p><p>I LOVE YOU. </p><p> </p><p>In the car - no seat belt</p><p>Please buckle up</p><p>NO</p><p>Car won't start until you buckle</p><p>Fine then I'm going back in the house</p><p>It's locked</p><p>UGH I HATE YOU</p><p>I LOVE YOU AND I'd love you to buckle up</p><p>FINE</p><p>Going down the road......he says - MY BOOKBAG</p><p>YUP it's at the house we're going to school</p><p>OMG - MAJOR MELTDOWN </p><p>KICKING THE DASH - Screaming I'll jump out</p><p>I'm rolling my eyes thinking I should have started the day with Gin and not Folgers</p><p>Okay - we'll go back....</p><p>We go in the house - He can't find it. (obvious stall) </p><p>Looks all around</p><p>I pour another cuppa jo </p><p>Then he says laughing - OH its in the car. </p><p>(I'm at boiling he's smirking) </p><p>Back in the car -He says I'm bucking up - LOOKIE HERE MOM</p><p> </p><p>And then we get to school and of COURSE he's late so I have to go in. </p><p>I sign him in - ask to use their phone to call work - because I am late. </p><p>I get chewed out - </p><p>I want to go home.....I consider the GIN ......I think better of it </p><p>I drive 20 miles to work </p><p>I get there - </p><p>They tell me I have a message </p><p>It's the school </p><p>Dudes been in a fight. </p><p>I'm to come get him</p><p>I smile politely and exhale as I tell my type A personality boss (who has more triggers than DUDE I have to leave and a major project deadline is due) </p><p>I'm leaving AGAIN because of my son -but yeah - I'll be bringing him back with me in an hour. </p><p>The other girls smile - but don't understand. </p><p>I leave</p><p>I consider Tequila AND Gin</p><p>I get to the school </p><p>Face those morons</p><p>Find my son</p><p>Three day out of school suspension - ????? </p><p>Well on the bright side - No more lost book bag tantrums - a huh ahem. lol right? Ehh </p><p>I get him in the car and hear - </p><p>I'm hungry not - I'm sorry </p><p>Can we stop at McDonalds? (Joyce I know you are laughing) Can we Can We </p><p>I figure why not It's already 11:00 </p><p>He pitches a fit because they put pickles on his cheeseburger then decides he LIKES pickles </p><p>He has a headache </p><p>We get to the office - </p><p>He's acting out there</p><p>I try to work, watch him - deal wtih Mr. PERSONALITY - do my job.....</p><p>Go home</p><p>Cook supper - '</p><p>Clean the house </p><p>Wash Clothes - </p><p>Dude goes and rides his bike because? WHY? Because if you think I wanted to deal with him 1 more minute you're NUTS so yeah go in the back yard and ride that bike MOms looking for GIN </p><p>I look out the window - and he's gone</p><p>Not in the yard </p><p>2 hours later he comes home as if nothing is wrong WITH friends</p><p>I'm mad as .......figure it out</p><p>I say GET IN THE HOUSE</p><p>He looks at his friends like his Mom is koo koo and makes the crazy finger swirl sign with his finger at his temple</p><p>I tell him he's grounded </p><p>He asks FOR WHAT you said I could ride my bike</p><p>I said IN THE YARD</p><p>I say take a bath </p><p>HE says WHERE would you like me to take it? </p><p>I said FINE smart boy - GO to bed</p><p>He goes TO the bed and stands there</p><p>Won't get IN the bed</p><p>I ask him to come to supper - </p><p>He asks what are we having? </p><p>I said what I cooked like a smartie </p><p>He doesn't LIKE pepperoni pizza</p><p>He wants a hot pocket</p><p>I want to scream only loosers eat hotpockets</p><p>But I say pick off the pepperoni</p><p>He kicks a hole in the wall </p><p>I sent him to bed without supper and he cries and trashes his room</p><p>I call him out once more for pizza - </p><p>He comes out and wants to watch TV </p><p>NO - pizza, bath, bed - we have to go to work tomorrow</p><p>HE HATES MY BOSS he's not going - let him stay home and ride bikes</p><p>OH YEAh </p><p>DF is freaking out and says NO WAY </p><p>and in the mean time - I</p><p>think about things like finding 10 minutes to sneak off and come here - find my sanity, </p><p>when is our counseling sessions? How many days until he's 18? </p><p> </p><p>So if you ask me what specifically his triggers are? I really can't put a finger on it - but earth, wind and fire and everything in between about sum it up for Dude. His personality was so flip floppy that about the time I thought I knew - red dye, bad day at school - teacher singling him out - things like that? He could have a perfectly wonderful day and still flip out. So I stopped trying to walk on egg shells and just started learning how to communicate with him the best I could whenever the opportunity presented itself, became a whole LOT less interested in having to get the last word in, learned how to fight fair and be a good example of that, and learned what words could spark a bad start to a seemingly good conversation. You'd be surprised what you think you say that is caring - really incites a difficult child. And things that you never think to say can get the gates open for them to just jabber on. </p><p> </p><p>If nothing else? I hope I've given you a laugh or two. I know for a fact my son has - cause this was a mild example in a day of our life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 423150, member: 4964"] What flips their switch - the not so funny version - as I remember it on various days and no I'm not kidding. From morning to night: The alarm clock The snooze button The light in the hall SHUT THE DOOR Leave my door OPEN Shut my door The alarm again - projectile style The smell of oatmeal The smell of coffee The sound of the shower The sound of the hairdryer His clothes, his lack of clothes, his choice of clothes Clothes tags, clothes fit, not fit, pants, shirts, I'm not wearing this! Socks OMG socks (gets that honest: Sock snob) The ridge on the socks) The elastic Shoes - they're too tight, they're wet, they're gay, those pants are gay, they're too short, I'm not wearing this! I'm not going! Goes back to bed Alarm goes off again on the opposite side of the room. Gets up, STOMPS on alarm, alarm # 4 for the month dies a slow, tragic, sickly sounding death. BREAKFAST IS READY. OMG I HATE Fing oatmeal. YOU KNOW THAT and I have NOTHING TO WEAR. Have some Cheerios. How about an egg? Dippy Egg? With Toast? - Sure. Okay. Goes back to bed. Breakfast! Bring it to me. COME AND GET IT! Gets up, in shorts - eats, puts on t shirt, Got your homework? Didn't have any - Gotta ask. (he never had any) Okay SHOES we gotta go. I'm not going Yup - Gotta go. My shoes are all wet. And they'll be wet all day - LETS GO. We can dry them? NO. 5,4,3,2,1 - In THE CAR I HATE YOU. I love you I hate school I LOVE SCHOOL I LOVE YOU. In the car - no seat belt Please buckle up NO Car won't start until you buckle Fine then I'm going back in the house It's locked UGH I HATE YOU I LOVE YOU AND I'd love you to buckle up FINE Going down the road......he says - MY BOOKBAG YUP it's at the house we're going to school OMG - MAJOR MELTDOWN KICKING THE DASH - Screaming I'll jump out I'm rolling my eyes thinking I should have started the day with Gin and not Folgers Okay - we'll go back.... We go in the house - He can't find it. (obvious stall) Looks all around I pour another cuppa jo Then he says laughing - OH its in the car. (I'm at boiling he's smirking) Back in the car -He says I'm bucking up - LOOKIE HERE MOM And then we get to school and of COURSE he's late so I have to go in. I sign him in - ask to use their phone to call work - because I am late. I get chewed out - I want to go home.....I consider the GIN ......I think better of it I drive 20 miles to work I get there - They tell me I have a message It's the school Dudes been in a fight. I'm to come get him I smile politely and exhale as I tell my type A personality boss (who has more triggers than DUDE I have to leave and a major project deadline is due) I'm leaving AGAIN because of my son -but yeah - I'll be bringing him back with me in an hour. The other girls smile - but don't understand. I leave I consider Tequila AND Gin I get to the school Face those morons Find my son Three day out of school suspension - ????? Well on the bright side - No more lost book bag tantrums - a huh ahem. lol right? Ehh I get him in the car and hear - I'm hungry not - I'm sorry Can we stop at McDonalds? (Joyce I know you are laughing) Can we Can We I figure why not It's already 11:00 He pitches a fit because they put pickles on his cheeseburger then decides he LIKES pickles He has a headache We get to the office - He's acting out there I try to work, watch him - deal wtih Mr. PERSONALITY - do my job..... Go home Cook supper - ' Clean the house Wash Clothes - Dude goes and rides his bike because? WHY? Because if you think I wanted to deal with him 1 more minute you're NUTS so yeah go in the back yard and ride that bike MOms looking for GIN I look out the window - and he's gone Not in the yard 2 hours later he comes home as if nothing is wrong WITH friends I'm mad as .......figure it out I say GET IN THE HOUSE He looks at his friends like his Mom is koo koo and makes the crazy finger swirl sign with his finger at his temple I tell him he's grounded He asks FOR WHAT you said I could ride my bike I said IN THE YARD I say take a bath HE says WHERE would you like me to take it? I said FINE smart boy - GO to bed He goes TO the bed and stands there Won't get IN the bed I ask him to come to supper - He asks what are we having? I said what I cooked like a smartie He doesn't LIKE pepperoni pizza He wants a hot pocket I want to scream only loosers eat hotpockets But I say pick off the pepperoni He kicks a hole in the wall I sent him to bed without supper and he cries and trashes his room I call him out once more for pizza - He comes out and wants to watch TV NO - pizza, bath, bed - we have to go to work tomorrow HE HATES MY BOSS he's not going - let him stay home and ride bikes OH YEAh DF is freaking out and says NO WAY and in the mean time - I think about things like finding 10 minutes to sneak off and come here - find my sanity, when is our counseling sessions? How many days until he's 18? So if you ask me what specifically his triggers are? I really can't put a finger on it - but earth, wind and fire and everything in between about sum it up for Dude. His personality was so flip floppy that about the time I thought I knew - red dye, bad day at school - teacher singling him out - things like that? He could have a perfectly wonderful day and still flip out. So I stopped trying to walk on egg shells and just started learning how to communicate with him the best I could whenever the opportunity presented itself, became a whole LOT less interested in having to get the last word in, learned how to fight fair and be a good example of that, and learned what words could spark a bad start to a seemingly good conversation. You'd be surprised what you think you say that is caring - really incites a difficult child. And things that you never think to say can get the gates open for them to just jabber on. If nothing else? I hope I've given you a laugh or two. I know for a fact my son has - cause this was a mild example in a day of our life. [/QUOTE]
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