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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 150218" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Abbey, that very rude customer - it can be very confronting. I used to see them as a challenge. We had a technician like that when I was an uni, he was so incredibly sour that he intimidated all the students. You would go to his window to ask for some vital equipment and he would act like you were trying to cheat him out of something.</p><p></p><p>So from that point on, I began to play a game - whenever I met someone like that on a regular basis, instead of letting intimidation drive me away, I would make an effort to win them over. My ambition was to raise a smile on their face. It's not always easy, but over the years I have met some very interesting people who I would never have talked to, if I had let fear or anger keep me at a distance. Knowing that person was likely to come my way again - I would often be better prepared next time, perhaps with something like, "I hope your day is a good one for you." And if I anticipate them getting huffy with me about DARING to enquire, I would prepare, "I like people and I care about them. I feel sad when other people are sad."</p><p>If they say, "You must be a very mixed up person," or other insult, I just agree with them. "Yep. Maybe. But it's who I am."</p><p></p><p>A woman on the checkout in out supermarket is sour like t his. For a long time I avoided using her checkout, but I've had no choice a few times lately, and I played my game - and found she can be quite friendly. her outlook on life is generally sour, but she works three jobs and so does her husband, just to pay the bills. I said to her, "You need to relax on the weekend," and she said, "I can't. I'm spending my weekends, as usual, cleaning a large office block."</p><p></p><p>easy child 2/difficult child 2 meets some interesting people. She avoids the "Have a nice day" because in Australia it's often viewed as false, but there are other, more genuine-sounding, things to say. The staff at our local butcher are always friendly. They greet us by name (as soon as they get to know our names) and often help by carrying our parcels to the car, even if its several blocks away.</p><p></p><p>People can be polite and friendly, but sometimes we do have to remind them how.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 150218, member: 1991"] Abbey, that very rude customer - it can be very confronting. I used to see them as a challenge. We had a technician like that when I was an uni, he was so incredibly sour that he intimidated all the students. You would go to his window to ask for some vital equipment and he would act like you were trying to cheat him out of something. So from that point on, I began to play a game - whenever I met someone like that on a regular basis, instead of letting intimidation drive me away, I would make an effort to win them over. My ambition was to raise a smile on their face. It's not always easy, but over the years I have met some very interesting people who I would never have talked to, if I had let fear or anger keep me at a distance. Knowing that person was likely to come my way again - I would often be better prepared next time, perhaps with something like, "I hope your day is a good one for you." And if I anticipate them getting huffy with me about DARING to enquire, I would prepare, "I like people and I care about them. I feel sad when other people are sad." If they say, "You must be a very mixed up person," or other insult, I just agree with them. "Yep. Maybe. But it's who I am." A woman on the checkout in out supermarket is sour like t his. For a long time I avoided using her checkout, but I've had no choice a few times lately, and I played my game - and found she can be quite friendly. her outlook on life is generally sour, but she works three jobs and so does her husband, just to pay the bills. I said to her, "You need to relax on the weekend," and she said, "I can't. I'm spending my weekends, as usual, cleaning a large office block." easy child 2/difficult child 2 meets some interesting people. She avoids the "Have a nice day" because in Australia it's often viewed as false, but there are other, more genuine-sounding, things to say. The staff at our local butcher are always friendly. They greet us by name (as soon as they get to know our names) and often help by carrying our parcels to the car, even if its several blocks away. People can be polite and friendly, but sometimes we do have to remind them how. Marg [/QUOTE]
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