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What have i done so wrong to make my adult daughter dislike me so much?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 650228" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>There is a huge need in a dysfunctional unit to keep the "black sheep" in place. It is part of their world and they don't discuss where they placed you because it would mess up their worlds if they admitted they may have been wrong. At least, that's what I think.</p><p></p><p>I'm done trying to logically figure out my family-of-origin. I just know facts:</p><p></p><p>1. All of us were a mess, including me.</p><p></p><p>2. I was "different" so I became the necessary black sheep. I was more sensitive and more easily hurt. That made me a magnet because they could bully me.</p><p></p><p>3. The ones still on earth still think I am the DNA collection black sheep.</p><p></p><p>4. Big deal. It does not make their wishes about me a true fact.</p><p></p><p>5. Move on without them. As much as The Brady Bunch and Beaver Cleaver tried to make family (DNA by random) people who must love you or you are worthless, it is not correct.</p><p></p><p>If somebody says I have red hair and insists on it and talks others into seeing me with red hair, when my hair is dark brown, does their insistence that my hair is red make it true? Just because they see it as red? Or want to see it as red?</p><p></p><p>We are who we are, no matter what anybody, including our DNA collection, tells us we are. So who cares if they think wrongly about us?</p><p>I'd rather be around those people who see me with dark brown hair. They see and understand the real me and are not making up their own version of a person who does not exist.</p><p></p><p>My DNA collection lives in a magical world in which people are the way THEY choose to see them. It's like living with fairies and pink elephants. They are not good at reality. And many of them are quite mean. Who needs it??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 650228, member: 1550"] There is a huge need in a dysfunctional unit to keep the "black sheep" in place. It is part of their world and they don't discuss where they placed you because it would mess up their worlds if they admitted they may have been wrong. At least, that's what I think. I'm done trying to logically figure out my family-of-origin. I just know facts: 1. All of us were a mess, including me. 2. I was "different" so I became the necessary black sheep. I was more sensitive and more easily hurt. That made me a magnet because they could bully me. 3. The ones still on earth still think I am the DNA collection black sheep. 4. Big deal. It does not make their wishes about me a true fact. 5. Move on without them. As much as The Brady Bunch and Beaver Cleaver tried to make family (DNA by random) people who must love you or you are worthless, it is not correct. If somebody says I have red hair and insists on it and talks others into seeing me with red hair, when my hair is dark brown, does their insistence that my hair is red make it true? Just because they see it as red? Or want to see it as red? We are who we are, no matter what anybody, including our DNA collection, tells us we are. So who cares if they think wrongly about us? I'd rather be around those people who see me with dark brown hair. They see and understand the real me and are not making up their own version of a person who does not exist. My DNA collection lives in a magical world in which people are the way THEY choose to see them. It's like living with fairies and pink elephants. They are not good at reality. And many of them are quite mean. Who needs it?? [/QUOTE]
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