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What have i done so wrong to make my adult daughter dislike me so much?
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<blockquote data-quote="learn-a-lot" data-source="post: 684131" data-attributes="member: 20230"><p>Hi, Elliedeb! What you are going through is some of the hardest emotional trials out there. I am going through it, too. I have been spending a LOT of time studying the Narcissist Personality Disorder because my: dad (plus his mom + dad) and my mom ( plus her mom and grandma, + her dad and his dad) were ALL NARCISSISTS!!! So guess what? I have many traits as well (they call that "having fleas"). I have spent most of my life working on those traits and eliminating them from my life, but they still come back to haunt me now and then. This has got to be the most impossible Disorder to "undo". First, I have had to "get self esteem for myself"...very very difficult. I have had to tell my kids all about the disorder and show them lots of the links on the internet. I also have them let me know when I have a "slip" and go into the Narcissist behaviors and I NEVER argue with them about that. I am of the type "engulfing Narcissist" which is a kind of enabler. No more money from me! I never say any negative stuff when facebooking with them, and try to keep my opinions to myself and my journal when I interact with them. My job is not to provide them with a continuous stream of "I.V.opinions". I also do not complain about my life, my problems, or my situations to them, because they are not my therapist. If I happen to get lucky enough to "get together" with them, I consider it a great and wonderful event indeed! I stay 100% positive while with them. Guess what? This approach has worked better than anything else out there, and I have been in therapy for 35 years of my life to get to this point. Good luck, Elliedeb!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="learn-a-lot, post: 684131, member: 20230"] Hi, Elliedeb! What you are going through is some of the hardest emotional trials out there. I am going through it, too. I have been spending a LOT of time studying the Narcissist Personality Disorder because my: dad (plus his mom + dad) and my mom ( plus her mom and grandma, + her dad and his dad) were ALL NARCISSISTS!!! So guess what? I have many traits as well (they call that "having fleas"). I have spent most of my life working on those traits and eliminating them from my life, but they still come back to haunt me now and then. This has got to be the most impossible Disorder to "undo". First, I have had to "get self esteem for myself"...very very difficult. I have had to tell my kids all about the disorder and show them lots of the links on the internet. I also have them let me know when I have a "slip" and go into the Narcissist behaviors and I NEVER argue with them about that. I am of the type "engulfing Narcissist" which is a kind of enabler. No more money from me! I never say any negative stuff when facebooking with them, and try to keep my opinions to myself and my journal when I interact with them. My job is not to provide them with a continuous stream of "I.V.opinions". I also do not complain about my life, my problems, or my situations to them, because they are not my therapist. If I happen to get lucky enough to "get together" with them, I consider it a great and wonderful event indeed! I stay 100% positive while with them. Guess what? This approach has worked better than anything else out there, and I have been in therapy for 35 years of my life to get to this point. Good luck, Elliedeb! [/QUOTE]
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