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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744966" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oh. I do not have the means to take my adult kids on vacations. If I did and they dared to say to me that not renting surfboards ruined their vacation, their vacation would be over or the rest of it would be on their dime except for a flight home and I would never ask them again. At least, thats how I hope I would react.</p><p></p><p>Part of the problem that I see with many ADULTS that bring us here, either presently or in the past, is in my opinion that the parents are scared of ticking off really bratty, nasty, rude behavior. At least among those in the higher monetary classes, I am shocked by what sometimes lazy, rude, abusive, drugged, horribly disrespectful adults are given .....free cars, room and board, tickets paid, attornies for bad offenses,houses....and this is even when these adults are treating their parents like crap! Rewards for not even a tinge of respect. Nothing is expected anymore with many parents who would NEVER have treated their parents that way EVEN if they never were given a car, house, etc.</p><p></p><p>We get treated the way we let people treat us.</p><p></p><p>Think of if our parents or grandparents would have put up with the two adults saying their free vacation was lousy because they had to pay for their own rental boards. Or how they would have reacted to much of this type of rude, entitled behavior. Would they have bought us everything we owned if we took drugs and refused to work? And on top of that abused them? And then called to whine and point fingers at THEM?</p><p></p><p>I was very close to my grandma and she was the kindest person in my family of origin butv even she would have been done if anyone had treated her that way. To tne extent of rudeness I read on this forum. And abuse.</p><p></p><p>So I feel very badly for parents who take their adult kids out for a nice dinner then get treated like crap but a part of me thinks they are allowing it and thus causing it to happen.</p><p></p><p>I have put up with too much from many, giving others who are not kind by nature or maybe have grudges against me an easy way to stick it to me. Whose fault was that? In large part, my own for allowing them in my space.</p><p></p><p>Fortunately for me it has not been a child. It still took me a long time to refuse to accept it.</p><p></p><p>Nobody needs to put up with rude, abusive adults. But some of us put up with it, even reward it. We love them so we put up with crumbs.</p><p></p><p>But our ancestors probably would not have let this sort of disrespect stand. We do. So it happens a lot today.</p><p></p><p>Jmo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744966, member: 1550"] Oh. I do not have the means to take my adult kids on vacations. If I did and they dared to say to me that not renting surfboards ruined their vacation, their vacation would be over or the rest of it would be on their dime except for a flight home and I would never ask them again. At least, thats how I hope I would react. Part of the problem that I see with many ADULTS that bring us here, either presently or in the past, is in my opinion that the parents are scared of ticking off really bratty, nasty, rude behavior. At least among those in the higher monetary classes, I am shocked by what sometimes lazy, rude, abusive, drugged, horribly disrespectful adults are given .....free cars, room and board, tickets paid, attornies for bad offenses,houses....and this is even when these adults are treating their parents like crap! Rewards for not even a tinge of respect. Nothing is expected anymore with many parents who would NEVER have treated their parents that way EVEN if they never were given a car, house, etc. We get treated the way we let people treat us. Think of if our parents or grandparents would have put up with the two adults saying their free vacation was lousy because they had to pay for their own rental boards. Or how they would have reacted to much of this type of rude, entitled behavior. Would they have bought us everything we owned if we took drugs and refused to work? And on top of that abused them? And then called to whine and point fingers at THEM? I was very close to my grandma and she was the kindest person in my family of origin butv even she would have been done if anyone had treated her that way. To tne extent of rudeness I read on this forum. And abuse. So I feel very badly for parents who take their adult kids out for a nice dinner then get treated like crap but a part of me thinks they are allowing it and thus causing it to happen. I have put up with too much from many, giving others who are not kind by nature or maybe have grudges against me an easy way to stick it to me. Whose fault was that? In large part, my own for allowing them in my space. Fortunately for me it has not been a child. It still took me a long time to refuse to accept it. Nobody needs to put up with rude, abusive adults. But some of us put up with it, even reward it. We love them so we put up with crumbs. But our ancestors probably would not have let this sort of disrespect stand. We do. So it happens a lot today. Jmo [/QUOTE]
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