Thanks Tanya.
"Why we do it...guilt, fear, control, (but we may call it love)"
I especially liked this part because it names something I believe is extremely challenging for us parents to identify......that enabling is NOT love and in fact harms the other and ourselves. That part can remain in the shadows forever, lurking there like the elephant in the room, but never acknowledged....and yet running the show. The never-ending complete focus on our kids keeps us from seeing that truth, thereby staying stuck in the cyclical pattern of enabling. We can't fix what we don't acknowledge.
