My son wants us. But what does that mean to him?
That we listen to his tale of woe: How he has to live around drug addicts, in dirty, decaying places. When he has money to choose an alternative. How he feels that college students are better than he but he is better than people who talk to themselves.
How he wants us to loan him money to eat when he has used his to buy marijuana.
Support to him, means he wants us to tolerate being lied to. Over and over again.
Our support and love gives him the right to call us in the middle of the night to take him to the emergency hospital, because it is not worth his time or effort to go to the doctor, a 15 min walk.
To be supportive is to accept that he does not care whose food he eats, and how much. Their hunger or how much they worked to pay for that food is not of consequence.
To be supportive is to accept that he chooses not to work, but others have to to pay for what he unquestionably deserves.
I sound kind of angry, don't I?
