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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 296311"><p><em>"To clarify, difficult child was not sent anywhere. He <strong>wanted</strong> out of my house.</em> "</p><p> </p><p>So, junior <strong>wanted </strong>out of your home and now he <strong>wants</strong> back in????</p><p> </p><p>Sounds like he was calling the shots then and is calling the shots now and your sister has been providing some assistance. Lots of potential boundary issues.</p><p> </p><p><strong><em>What do you and husband want?</em></strong> </p><p> </p><p>I do like your thought about being on the same page. What are the goals? Are they healthy? Is everyone shooting for the same thing? It's nice that your son might have been more appropriately behaved with- your sister...its' really hard to say.</p><p> </p><p>However, could him and your sister be "up" to something???? I absolutely do NOT like the secrecy when you ask her questions and get "non" answers.</p><p> </p><p>I'm glad you are making strong efforts to communicate with your sister. What evidence do you have that she is willing to be do likewise? </p><p> </p><p>Also, sounds good to me that you are trying very hard to work together as a family with- you and your husband as head of the family. </p><p> </p><p>I'm glad you are thinking about seeking the assistance of a Family Therapist, especially since there has been many ongoing difficulities. Perhaps your son's therapist can can suggest someone, etc. </p><p> </p><p>by the way, like someone else mentioned on this thread, keep in mind that your son is fast approaching age 18 and soon you/he/the family will have to seriously think about how things can and will change in the months ahead. Is he earning enough money to be an independent adult? Does he need more schooling? What is his maturity level? And 18 year olds don't particularly have to live under mom's roof...perhas he should know this.</p><p> </p><p>I admire your courage and fortitude. It was good to hear that you appreciate the "kick in the pants." A gentle, kind one, from a friend..always works for me. Wishing you and your family progress, peace and happiness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 296311"] [I]"To clarify, difficult child was not sent anywhere. He [B]wanted[/B] out of my house.[/I] " So, junior [B]wanted [/B]out of your home and now he [B]wants[/B] back in???? Sounds like he was calling the shots then and is calling the shots now and your sister has been providing some assistance. Lots of potential boundary issues. [B][I]What do you and husband want?[/I][/B] I do like your thought about being on the same page. What are the goals? Are they healthy? Is everyone shooting for the same thing? It's nice that your son might have been more appropriately behaved with- your sister...its' really hard to say. However, could him and your sister be "up" to something???? I absolutely do NOT like the secrecy when you ask her questions and get "non" answers. I'm glad you are making strong efforts to communicate with your sister. What evidence do you have that she is willing to be do likewise? Also, sounds good to me that you are trying very hard to work together as a family with- you and your husband as head of the family. I'm glad you are thinking about seeking the assistance of a Family Therapist, especially since there has been many ongoing difficulities. Perhaps your son's therapist can can suggest someone, etc. by the way, like someone else mentioned on this thread, keep in mind that your son is fast approaching age 18 and soon you/he/the family will have to seriously think about how things can and will change in the months ahead. Is he earning enough money to be an independent adult? Does he need more schooling? What is his maturity level? And 18 year olds don't particularly have to live under mom's roof...perhas he should know this. I admire your courage and fortitude. It was good to hear that you appreciate the "kick in the pants." A gentle, kind one, from a friend..always works for me. Wishing you and your family progress, peace and happiness. [/QUOTE]
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