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What is it about School that "tortures" my difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 243409" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Well, obviously, bright or not, your child has some problems making school "torture" for him. Brightness doesn't have a whole lot to do with school success. If the child is "normal" (whatever the heck THAT is), he can do well even if he has an average IQ--he can push himself and come home and sit and do homework and extra credit too. But if a bright child has some sort of problem/disorder hampering him, he may have an IQ of 160 yet be unable to adapt well to the routines and expectations of school--therefore an IEP is needed. Some kids also can NOT do a whole day of school and then sit down and do homework too--they just need to "veg" out because they are wired differently than "typical" kids. There are a few here who have "no homework" on IEPs. I have that on my son's. He gets everything done in a special study hall at school where he can ask for a teacher's help if he needs it (but he's gotten to the point where he can usually just finish his 'homework' alone, but in school). When he comes home he can relax from a day that, for him, is very stressful due to things that other kids just take in stride. </p><p>My son gets overstimulated by all the kids, all the noise, all the chaos, and just being around people. He is on the autism spectrum, although quite high functioning. He has learned ALMOST to adapt to school, and he LOVES it, but we got him a lot of help when he was younger. He has outgrown the need for much help and makes the honor roll with some Learning Disability (LD) assistance. </p><p>Take heart. Your boy IS creative and smart. He is just different, and needs to learn a different way. I don't recall if he has a neuropsychologist evaluation scheduled, but if he doesn't I suggest it would be a good idea. That way you'd get a really good idea as to why Timmy is so bright yet struggles in school--even considers it "torture." And you can learn ways to help him. Until you get to the root cause, he will likely struggle and and in my opinion an IEP will only be a band-aid until he gets the proper interventions. Timmy sounds like a great kid who is just overwhelmed. Sadly, teachers can then start to think he is "bad." He is NOT bad. WHen he yells at teachers, likely he is frustrated or overstimulated. Of course, you can't let it go, but see what's wrong with him before lowering the boom. JMO. Been there/done that. Good luck!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 243409, member: 1550"] Hi there. Well, obviously, bright or not, your child has some problems making school "torture" for him. Brightness doesn't have a whole lot to do with school success. If the child is "normal" (whatever the heck THAT is), he can do well even if he has an average IQ--he can push himself and come home and sit and do homework and extra credit too. But if a bright child has some sort of problem/disorder hampering him, he may have an IQ of 160 yet be unable to adapt well to the routines and expectations of school--therefore an IEP is needed. Some kids also can NOT do a whole day of school and then sit down and do homework too--they just need to "veg" out because they are wired differently than "typical" kids. There are a few here who have "no homework" on IEPs. I have that on my son's. He gets everything done in a special study hall at school where he can ask for a teacher's help if he needs it (but he's gotten to the point where he can usually just finish his 'homework' alone, but in school). When he comes home he can relax from a day that, for him, is very stressful due to things that other kids just take in stride. My son gets overstimulated by all the kids, all the noise, all the chaos, and just being around people. He is on the autism spectrum, although quite high functioning. He has learned ALMOST to adapt to school, and he LOVES it, but we got him a lot of help when he was younger. He has outgrown the need for much help and makes the honor roll with some Learning Disability (LD) assistance. Take heart. Your boy IS creative and smart. He is just different, and needs to learn a different way. I don't recall if he has a neuropsychologist evaluation scheduled, but if he doesn't I suggest it would be a good idea. That way you'd get a really good idea as to why Timmy is so bright yet struggles in school--even considers it "torture." And you can learn ways to help him. Until you get to the root cause, he will likely struggle and and in my opinion an IEP will only be a band-aid until he gets the proper interventions. Timmy sounds like a great kid who is just overwhelmed. Sadly, teachers can then start to think he is "bad." He is NOT bad. WHen he yells at teachers, likely he is frustrated or overstimulated. Of course, you can't let it go, but see what's wrong with him before lowering the boom. JMO. Been there/done that. Good luck!!! [/QUOTE]
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