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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 137838" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I'd let him stay away until he asked with no provisos and an agreement to follow the rules at home. If things were so great, he wouldn't have mentioned he wanted to come home. He's trying for the proverbial cake -- come home but no rules. </p><p> </p><p>He may be "accustomed" to not having any rules but that doesn't mean he really likes not having a home. Sometimes our kids have to hit some sort of bottom before they realize how good home can be. It sounds like he is getting there. Just a few more little falls.</p><p> </p><p>I know how painful it is. But I learned the hard way that if I just opened the door for her return, it would be on her terms. That works for no one. She did leave (again), she's now back but she's also very clear on the fact that she's back strictly on my conditions and if she doesn't like those conditions, she's free to leave and, if necessary, I'll help her out the door.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 137838, member: 3626"] I'd let him stay away until he asked with no provisos and an agreement to follow the rules at home. If things were so great, he wouldn't have mentioned he wanted to come home. He's trying for the proverbial cake -- come home but no rules. He may be "accustomed" to not having any rules but that doesn't mean he really likes not having a home. Sometimes our kids have to hit some sort of bottom before they realize how good home can be. It sounds like he is getting there. Just a few more little falls. I know how painful it is. But I learned the hard way that if I just opened the door for her return, it would be on her terms. That works for no one. She did leave (again), she's now back but she's also very clear on the fact that she's back strictly on my conditions and if she doesn't like those conditions, she's free to leave and, if necessary, I'll help her out the door. [/QUOTE]
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