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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 330550" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I still have few clues what to call that constant pestering, the total joy of getting a ngeative reaction. I often think that my difficult child was wired so that anger gave him thrills. It also led to a lifetime of constant depression, largely because he only ever purposely sought out negative responses. </p><p></p><p>As a baby he had mostly positive responses from us. But even at 6 WEEKS he could not handle having someone with him all the time. He needed HOURS of time awake where he was all alone. Otherwise he cried and screamed constantly. We thought it was colic (whatever that is, our docs were not much help nor is medical science even close to figuring it out). My mom thought it was an immature digestive tract, because I had one. But he did not projectile vomit (I did. Spectacularly well, I am told. I once hit a cousin who was almost 20 FEET away from me, LOL! We have a picture.)</p><p></p><p>Sort of by accident I started leaving him alone on a blanket with his playgym thingy. He would chew on the tushie of the Donald Duck figure and laugh and coo. If he even caught a glimpse of me in the doorway he would howl with rage.</p><p></p><p>As he became mobile he would start doing things over and over to make us yell. It was HARD to learn not to. After a few years I figured out that the ONLY way any praise ever wound into his consciousness was to hear us praise him to other people. He just didn't believe us. Not unless he thought we said it to someone else. I got to where I would pick up the phone and act like I was calling someone if I wanted him to know I liked something. </p><p></p><p>This is just an example of how complicated their brains are. It was not easy to figure it all out. It took YEARS. </p><p></p><p>MANY tdocs, psychiatrists, etc.... thought he was adopted because his behavior was so much more similar to that of an adopted child. the go-away-I-hate-you-don't-you-love-me was too much for my husband. He pretty much stopped having any reaction other than unhappiness to my son by the time Wiz was 6 or 7. With the way his own mind works he just was not able to make any kind of emotional connection to our son. He IS the biological father, there is NO doubt about it. For many years husband placed ALL the reason for Wiz' issues at the feet of my family, largely because there are big similarities between my gfgbro and Wiz (and they cannot stand each other). In the last year or so he has admitted that he has some similar issues to Wiz, that it isn't all "my" fault. </p><p></p><p>With not knowing what his first year or so was like, there could be a LOT behind your son's issues. It will probably be a mix of many things. From what I have learned from a friend who adopted twins from overseas, alcohol abuse during pregnancy could be a major factor.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of the causes, I strongly urge you to seek out a private Occupational Therapist (OT) to do a sensory integration evaluation. With the right kinds of sensory input my kids each made HUGE progress in handling their issues. I think thank you would have an Aspie diagnosis if we had not gotten a sensory evaluation and diet in place at an early age. Get a copy of The Out of Sync Child Has Fun and let difficult child show you which activities rev him up and which calm him down and which ones creep him out totally. The evaluation was eye opening to me because it showed where we already were doing many things the Occupational Therapist (OT) suggested, just because thank you really liked doing them and would calm down or work out his energy doing them.</p><p></p><p>Let your instincts guide you through the diagnosis and treatment. You are the mom for a reason. Your instincts are there for just that reason - to help you raise your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 330550, member: 1233"] I still have few clues what to call that constant pestering, the total joy of getting a ngeative reaction. I often think that my difficult child was wired so that anger gave him thrills. It also led to a lifetime of constant depression, largely because he only ever purposely sought out negative responses. As a baby he had mostly positive responses from us. But even at 6 WEEKS he could not handle having someone with him all the time. He needed HOURS of time awake where he was all alone. Otherwise he cried and screamed constantly. We thought it was colic (whatever that is, our docs were not much help nor is medical science even close to figuring it out). My mom thought it was an immature digestive tract, because I had one. But he did not projectile vomit (I did. Spectacularly well, I am told. I once hit a cousin who was almost 20 FEET away from me, LOL! We have a picture.) Sort of by accident I started leaving him alone on a blanket with his playgym thingy. He would chew on the tushie of the Donald Duck figure and laugh and coo. If he even caught a glimpse of me in the doorway he would howl with rage. As he became mobile he would start doing things over and over to make us yell. It was HARD to learn not to. After a few years I figured out that the ONLY way any praise ever wound into his consciousness was to hear us praise him to other people. He just didn't believe us. Not unless he thought we said it to someone else. I got to where I would pick up the phone and act like I was calling someone if I wanted him to know I liked something. This is just an example of how complicated their brains are. It was not easy to figure it all out. It took YEARS. MANY tdocs, psychiatrists, etc.... thought he was adopted because his behavior was so much more similar to that of an adopted child. the go-away-I-hate-you-don't-you-love-me was too much for my husband. He pretty much stopped having any reaction other than unhappiness to my son by the time Wiz was 6 or 7. With the way his own mind works he just was not able to make any kind of emotional connection to our son. He IS the biological father, there is NO doubt about it. For many years husband placed ALL the reason for Wiz' issues at the feet of my family, largely because there are big similarities between my gfgbro and Wiz (and they cannot stand each other). In the last year or so he has admitted that he has some similar issues to Wiz, that it isn't all "my" fault. With not knowing what his first year or so was like, there could be a LOT behind your son's issues. It will probably be a mix of many things. From what I have learned from a friend who adopted twins from overseas, alcohol abuse during pregnancy could be a major factor. Regardless of the causes, I strongly urge you to seek out a private Occupational Therapist (OT) to do a sensory integration evaluation. With the right kinds of sensory input my kids each made HUGE progress in handling their issues. I think thank you would have an Aspie diagnosis if we had not gotten a sensory evaluation and diet in place at an early age. Get a copy of The Out of Sync Child Has Fun and let difficult child show you which activities rev him up and which calm him down and which ones creep him out totally. The evaluation was eye opening to me because it showed where we already were doing many things the Occupational Therapist (OT) suggested, just because thank you really liked doing them and would calm down or work out his energy doing them. Let your instincts guide you through the diagnosis and treatment. You are the mom for a reason. Your instincts are there for just that reason - to help you raise your son. [/QUOTE]
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