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<blockquote data-quote="Lilac mom" data-source="post: 693349" data-attributes="member: 20503"><p>Thanks so much for responding, SWOT.</p><p></p><p>This is hard, its been a loooong 17 years! He has his sweet side, I just want to say, he can be so sweet and affectionate with me (tells me he loves me every day, will hug me), very sweet with our animals, but then, there's that other side that just....ugh. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I agree about the pot, I know it's not making things better. His grades dropped from 3.5 to 1.0 since he started it. I hate it and he does not use it in my home, but at friends, which I feel powerless to control. I sort of thought at first that it was "no big deal" until I realized that for some, for him, it IS a huge problem--like alcohol for some is a problem. They say it's not addictive, but he tried to stop over the weekend and after two days without it he was a monster. Just awful TOTAL meltdown, throwing clothes all over his room, screaming, cursing, agitated, agressive--not violent but really angry. Anyway, big eye opener for me, that he IS truly addicted to marijuana--psychologically or whatever, it doesn't matter. Whoever said pot's not addictive never met my kid.</p><p></p><p>He's not one who can do anything in moderation, that's for sure. I almost feel like he's a weird aspie+adhd mix. For some reason I feel like I would feel better if I knew there was a REASON he acts so darn OFF. That I could work with this if I knew he couldn't HELP it. Does that make sense?</p><p></p><p>Is there rehab for pot--is that such a thing? I sort of feel like he needs it because of his behavior this weekend when he tried to stop (after texting me that he felt like he was screwing up his life with his bad choices and wanted his old life back) his anxiety was THROUGH.THE.ROOF.</p><p></p><p>I agree that the neuropsychologist evaluation is a good idea--I will check to see if I can get this covered by insurance. I hope so. No, he's never had one. For now we do once a week family therapy--him, me and his father (my ex husband). This was court ordered due to son's habitual truancy. Son does not participate much so I'm not sure how much it's helping, honestly. He is very rude to the therapist. He told her he doesn't "like her" (she's very nice--and I think what he really means is "I don't like this"), but still....so rude. He mostly shrugs when she asks him anything or says "I don't know". </p><p></p><p>I do feel bad that I've waited so long to face things--he's been like this so long and I just didn't want to accept that he needed help. Now I feel like he's 17 and I'm running out of time to help him.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening to me vent, it feels good to not feel so alone with all of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lilac mom, post: 693349, member: 20503"] Thanks so much for responding, SWOT. This is hard, its been a loooong 17 years! He has his sweet side, I just want to say, he can be so sweet and affectionate with me (tells me he loves me every day, will hug me), very sweet with our animals, but then, there's that other side that just....ugh. Yes, I agree about the pot, I know it's not making things better. His grades dropped from 3.5 to 1.0 since he started it. I hate it and he does not use it in my home, but at friends, which I feel powerless to control. I sort of thought at first that it was "no big deal" until I realized that for some, for him, it IS a huge problem--like alcohol for some is a problem. They say it's not addictive, but he tried to stop over the weekend and after two days without it he was a monster. Just awful TOTAL meltdown, throwing clothes all over his room, screaming, cursing, agitated, agressive--not violent but really angry. Anyway, big eye opener for me, that he IS truly addicted to marijuana--psychologically or whatever, it doesn't matter. Whoever said pot's not addictive never met my kid. He's not one who can do anything in moderation, that's for sure. I almost feel like he's a weird aspie+adhd mix. For some reason I feel like I would feel better if I knew there was a REASON he acts so darn OFF. That I could work with this if I knew he couldn't HELP it. Does that make sense? Is there rehab for pot--is that such a thing? I sort of feel like he needs it because of his behavior this weekend when he tried to stop (after texting me that he felt like he was screwing up his life with his bad choices and wanted his old life back) his anxiety was THROUGH.THE.ROOF. I agree that the neuropsychologist evaluation is a good idea--I will check to see if I can get this covered by insurance. I hope so. No, he's never had one. For now we do once a week family therapy--him, me and his father (my ex husband). This was court ordered due to son's habitual truancy. Son does not participate much so I'm not sure how much it's helping, honestly. He is very rude to the therapist. He told her he doesn't "like her" (she's very nice--and I think what he really means is "I don't like this"), but still....so rude. He mostly shrugs when she asks him anything or says "I don't know". I do feel bad that I've waited so long to face things--he's been like this so long and I just didn't want to accept that he needed help. Now I feel like he's 17 and I'm running out of time to help him. Thanks for listening to me vent, it feels good to not feel so alone with all of this. [/QUOTE]
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