There is no pain like the pain a child can inflict on a mother. There is nothing that compares with this kind of pain.
But with all my heart, I believe you are doing the right thing for your son.
All the help in the world, all the tears, all the pain ~ these things have not helped your son to be the man you raised him to be. Your son is no one's victim Okie girl. You did not raise him to be a victim.
He is doing this to himself.
If you can pull away from him for a time, perhaps then he will be forced to stand on his own. Once he recovers his self respect, he will be on his way to becoming the man you raised him to be.
Nothing you have done for him has helped him, Okie girl. It is time to try a different kind of parenting. Please read the information about detachment parenting pinned to the top of this forum. I think that will help you. Also, please read through the McCoy information at the bottom of this post. She gives us the words we need to talk with our adult children as adults.
I am so sorry this is happening to you and to your family, and am so glad you are here with us.
Cedar
